Is it OK for a woman to enjoy a man opening doors for them and being chivilris? Does that make me unliberated?

The women's liberation movement was primarily started so that women would no longer be considered inferior to men. They wanted equality. They wanted the same pay a man got if they did the same job. They wanted to remove the glass ceiling in job advancement and they wanted the right to do work that was considered a non-female job. Firemen, etc. Women who objected to men opening doors, etc. did not want to be equal to men they wanted to be men.

You can be a liberated, independent woman, and still have your husband, open the door for you, order your meal, you know! treat you with respect, and take care of you. Chivalry is not dead, you are not weak, If anyone tells you different...They are just jealous. all men should be like your husband....LUCKY YOU

Np it does not make you unliberated. Just like men enjoy us pampering them when their sick or feeling down. Everyone enjoys knowing someone is there to take care of them. Any woman that doesn't enjoy having a man open doors for her should see a shrink! Enjoy it honey there are not many men out there that still take the time to acre about you first!

No. That doesn't make you unliberated.

What makes you unliberated is if you don't use your own mind to make your own decisions but rather depend on men (or even other women) to do that for you.

Liberation is never from men or women. It is a measure of your ability to make your own way in this world, working with men and women as equals where possible and supportive when needed.

I don't think it makes you unliberated. You are liberated enough to make your own choices about how you and your husband want to treat each other. I'm sure he enjoys doing those things as much as you enjoy having them done.

Why would anyone care if they come across as liberated if it means they can't let somebody open a door for them or do other things for them as a woman? I think the whole concept of "liberation" is an oxymoron...it seems more like being chained to the ground to me.

I agree! I want to be treated like a lady. Open my doors for me. Pull out my chair. Take care of me. Protect me! I don't think that being pampered a little is giving up our liberation!

Yes! If you enjoy it then that's the best way to define what's right (or OK! they way you put it) and what's wrong (or not OK!). That wouldn't be true if men didn't like it... but they do. You get to have the door opened for you and the man gets a nice view of your ...... : P

of course it's okay to enjoy those things being done for you but as long as you and your husband are aware of the fact that you are capable of doing those things for yourself, and probably do quite often, you should be fine. as long as you don't expect it of him every time or he he doesn't think it is his duty in life to keep his weak wife from opening the door for herself. also that you don't expect other men to have to do the same things your husband does and you know are aware that you can very well do anything for yourself.

if I am at the door first I will open it and hold it open for anyone. I would like them to do that for me as well. I think it shows people are civilized.

Of course it does not make you unliberated! That's sweet of him! lol