For guys who have been through alot of challenges in life....?

I'm the guy who has taken responsibility for the family at a really young age. This made me grow up quicker and look at life in a completely different way. With no time to be a kid I was making serious decisions at the age of 10 of weither to eat or help pay for the lights and this does put a toll on relationships that i've been in. None have really lasted that long because the girl doesn't understand what i've been through so they go out and cheat. Most of the relationships only last 6 months and then its over because you are always stuck in a serious mode. Always trying to save or make life easier and you forget about having fun. You don't want to open up to people your age because they won't understand so you go else where. Older women understand but don't want to date you because you are so young but they want you because you are so smart and way ahead of your time. The current relationship that i'm in is really rocky because of this. I try to find somebody that is serious like me but wants to stay home and have fun because growing up like I have you really don't know how to go out and have. This also puts a double standard in the mind of the girl which makes it really hard to cope with. When growing up and dealing with real life you don't have time for girlfriends because you are trying to survive and not starve and always worrying about the ones living around you and this makes you an outcast. You have very few relationships and very few friends and you become really anti-sociable to the point where you don't even know how to talk to a beautiful woman that you see walking around. Don't want to bore you with anymore details but I hope this helps you understand more of what goes on

hi, i don't know if i have enough experience to answer the question correctly, i am the oldest brother in my family, my sister is one year older than me, and my father is a pilot, he travels a lot and for long times, so i have a big responsibility to take helping mom taking care of the family, anyway about choosing the girl i want to spend my life with, her personality is very important to me , but before that comes love, and i mean real love, cuz its the most important thing in a relationship, a guy cant go around looking for a girl with a specific personality, what if he couldn't find such a girl, what if he loved a girl who has different personality from what he wants, so as an answer for ur first question a guy must find the girl then look at her personality, not determining the the personality then looking for a girl that has it. and the best thing that can happen is if a guy finds everything he wants in the girl he loves.

There's alot that you're asking here...that really just isn't possible to answer "completely".

Every person in the world, handles every situation differently. If you were to take 10 guys, with the same issues at home (say being forced into alot of responsibility at a young age) and asked them this question... You might get 3 that say they need the fun person, 3 that say they need a serious person, and 4 that say they need a mix of both. If you ask "why", you'd probably get 10 different reasons. If you took another 10 guys, you still might get 10 different answers.

People, in general, are products of their environment (guys or girls). As people, we learn from the things that happen around us, what we see, what we hear...what we're taught by our parents, by religion, school, and our friends.

There are however, some general characteristics that you can look at and say " this is generally true of certain people, but not all of them".... and you may or may not be able to tell by those characteristics, what kind of relationships in life they expect to have.

Now, with all that said... a good measure of relationships, many times, is to see how their parents are in their relationship. Again, being that we're products of our environment... the first relationship we observe and learn from in life, is our parents....regardless of if we're the oldest, youngest, or what demands were put on us as children.

I had a few challenges like this growing up. My parents divorced when I was 7 and soon afterward, my mom needed to get a job to be able to feed the 3 of us. As most jobs, hers would only pay enough if she worked a ton of overtime. This left me in charge OK the house.

My wife is the Structured one. I think the things I had to go through put quite a fire in my belly to make things right for my family. We have a more or less agreed upon sharing of duties. She takes care of paying our bills, I work on building the new business so she does not have to go back to work after her maternity leave.

We are a good Yin and Yang in our relationship. She is very structure oriented, I am extremely Aggressive and out-going. We split the house hold chores but I admit I do some of them my way, which is not always how she likes them. Sometimes she shows me, some times she just redoes it her way.

kicked out of the house at 17 graduated high schaool high honors put myself through college got a degree, got a decent job and am still continuing my education. bought my 1st house at the age of 23 and am hoping to buy about 5-10 more houses this summer. obviously i am a driven person....looks is the 1st thing that attracts me....personality keeps them around but. what i look for after those two characteristics is somone who is driven as well...i don't want to end up supporting someone....i need them to have plans in their life for their own career. a relationship is supposed to be a 50/50 partnership....somone who's just not driven in life isn't going to contribute their 50%

Attraction for (the vast majority) of men isn't a choice, and can be pretty much broken down into a mathematical formula. Symmetry of face, hip to waste ratio, and things of that such.

No no no....listen; I choose a girl solely based on what she looks like. I don't care what "type" of girl she is, as long as she looks good and kicks out the pooty, I'm a happy man.