What is the ideal intimacy between a husband and wife?

There are always going to be things that your partner doesn't know. Hopefully it's not due to you "hiding" it. Everyone deserves a little privacy, however, I wouldn't ever hide something from my fiance. Sure, there are things he may not know, but not because of any other reason than it not coming up in a conversation.

To me, and ideal intimacy between a husband and wife is a path to each other that is completly free from any obsticles. Both should never have to think twice about going to the other one about anything.

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Nothing should ever truly remain hidden. When the truth is untold and comes up in the future it creates hurt and will bring the thoughts "If they were dishonest about this, what else have they been dishonest about."

It is best to be honest, but there are some things that can cause hurt and pain. Never intentionally lie to your partner. If they ask a question, give a truthful answer in the least hurtful way. If it is something that they will not like or will cause them pain be sure after you answer reassure them of your love and dedication to them.

Some things though, would only cause hurt and resentment. Say your ex was wonderful lover, your current partner doesn't need to know that. if they were to ask a honest answer, tell them, but don;t volunteer information like that.

There is no set level of perfect privacy in a relationship. People are all very different and expect/desire different amounts of privacy. Some couples read each others emails, some couples answer each others cell phones, some don't. It really depends on you and your mate, what you both expect in a relationship and your idea of what marriage is.

I would guess that we're talking about "numbers" here. Some people are obsessed with the issue, but it's really more trouble that it's worth. So long as you are faithful, disease-free, and there aren't any embarrassing videos floating around out there on the internet, who cares?

Personally, I have nothing to hide from my wife. But we don't talk about the past. All that is important is the present and the future.

I think there are things that should be kept private, even when it comes to a husband/wife relationship. The exact nature of the "private" items depends on the dynamics of the relationship. For example - I don't need my husband to inform me every time he felt an attraction towards another woman; realistically speaking, I don't expect him to never be attracted to another woman again - I just don't need a report on the precise nature of his feelings in this matter. I keep things of this nature private as well.

Marriage is a TEAM effort.

Does the quarterback on a football TEAM only tell the center what the next play will be?

If your wanting so much privacy, why be married. Then you can have all you want.

Why have secrets in a marriage? That only shows you have no respect for her if your not.

IF she can see the sh*t stains in your shorts and wash them, then I suppose you owe her your privacy.

marriage is a bond of truth, honesty and faith. unless you are 100% honest with your spouse, you can never be committed. it does not mean that only if you are married, you will commit, commitment and honesty should be the basis of every relationship. if there are past skeletons which haunt you then take the skeleton out of the closet and throw it away. only by sharing and being honest about everything of you life, you can build a strong relationship.being close means the ability to share everything and still being mysterious.

i think you can should have closeness while remaing your own self (autonomy (sp) ) as to telling the truth, you should be truthfull about anything that has a direct impact on the relationship,,,,,,,, at the same time you are allowed your own privacy,,,,,,,,so i guess it would really depend on each thing/situation,,,,,,,, if your family depends on your money , then you should tell if you lost your job and will have no money,,,,,, if you had an affair, you should tell,,,,you dont need to mention thinking about having one or anyone you were with in the past,,,,,,

Yo doc...if I told my wife everything I would have to sleep with one hand over my balls and the other over my throat. Sometimes silence is golden.

The past is the past and should stay in the past!

unless you committed some Hannis crime leave the past alone