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i'm 22 years old and my father is a meth addict need some advice?

Ok so when i was growing up my dad was a pretty good man. He was a truck driver he had a decent job made a very decent living. after he left my mom for a much younger girl he quit his job and started his own business as a boat shop machanic. When things didnt work out with her i started noticing a change in my dad he started hanging around people i've never seen him hang around before. People who have been in trouble for drugs. My dads whole attitude about life in general is a total mess. He hasnt been much of a dad or grandparent to me or my son. My younger brother and him started having a relationship but come to find out my brother started using meth with him. i am very angry at my dad because i feel like he should grow up and be the adult. Last night i had a dream that my died had died and i was at his funeral and everyone was crying but me. I was mad at him. whats wrong with me? I feel like my dad died along time ago and i dont want to have these feelings for him

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  • 1 decade ago
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    First of all there is nothing wrong with how you are feeling and your dream was just warped representation of how angry, hurt, sad and frightened you are. Listen, your dad needs help, as I am so sure your know and you cannot be his help. He needs professional help. He needs to go into rehab. You may also need an intervention, meaning, you may have to contact someone that will forcibly take him to get clean.

    Parents should be viewed as our hero's, our supporters, our educators and the one place where we can find unconditional love. But your father is "not" your true father on meth, he shell is the same, his name is the same, his hands, his hair...all the same...his brain, his thoughts, his suffering and his addiction NOT the same. Contact your local social services department and ask about different organizations to obtain help. I wish the best for you and for your dad and brother. I hope that one day, he can become your dad again and the grandfather to your son.

    Stay strong and don't lose hope. I have seen many friends of mine who were addicted to very powerful drugs, recover and become hero's.

  • 1 decade ago

    I am sorry you have to go through this but look at it this way it will be a lesson learned in the long run.I feel like you have to let your dad find out for his self that this is no life.Alot of people say addicts need an intervention from family members but the fact of the matter is very seldom is it successful.Your dad will change when he is ready there is really nothing you can do about it at this point no matter how hard you try.I have seen this kind of thing too much in my day and out of all of them people did not change until they hit rock bottom and sometimes didn't even change then.I would not allow him to influence your son though it is crucial that you do not expose your child to anyone like that even if he is your dad and grandfather.Just tough it out and you can try and talk to him to say you at least tried but it probably wont matter once this drug gets a hold on some people they can't stop.

    Source(s): personal experience
  • 1 decade ago

    Been there, done that. You can try intervention, but that only works on t.v. Your best bet, is to be there and try to talk to him. Kindly explain to him how it hurts you to see him like that and that you want him to be around a long time. How you miss the relationship that you had. Just remember that, until he is ready there is really nothing you can do. You could try going to a N.A. meeting to see how others have quit and the way there family has supported them. I wish you the best of luck and my heart goes out to you.

  • 1 decade ago

    hm ur dad sounds like hes in his own mess. u should get him help or if u hate him that much, rmemeber HATE is a STRONGGGGGGGGG word. just dont keep in contact with him =/. i mean every deserves a second chance right? hope everything works =) u seem sweet!

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  • 1 decade ago

    Very sad to know about your dad...I am very glad you are married and have a son...settled...we can only pray for him....what is your dad's name so that we can put him in the daily prayer list...God alone can change him.....may God bless you.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    talk to him

    tell him how you feel

    take him fishing or anything that you used to do when you were a boy

    like a picnic, or play baseball and then just talk to him

    man to man

    heart to heart

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