What are the most common facts that can distroy a marriage or a long time relationship?

The lion’s share of marriage and relationship failures can easily be prevented by doing something to improve the selection process. This is where we are weakest, and this can be accomplished by doing two simple things:

1)The first involves knowing exactly what you want and need from another person using the list below, and the

2) second is taking the time and making the effort to verify and experience whether or not you are getting these things (this is the dating stage which too often gets shortchanged). If this tells you that things are working well, you proceed further into a relationship that is starting out right; if not, you cut your losses and run before the emotional involvement gets too entrenched.

The list--a good selection involves:

(a) knowing, loving, understanding and accepting yourself for who you are so you can do that with a potential mate

(b) both people clearly expressing and being in sync with their needs. preferences and expectations of each other and the relationship they are starting

(c) reaching a comfortable level of trust with each other to know what each is really getting into

(d) being comfortably compatible on the most important interpersonal attractiveness dimensions such as intellectual abilities, recreational interests, physical appearances, personality characteristics, vocational abilities, character integrity, strength of religious views and practices, love languages, sexual desires, financial status and family involvement.

(e) avoiding red flag deal breakers in critical values, habits, viewpoints or expectations, and finally

(f) being open to and committed to working together to have a good relationship, no matter what it takes, without anyone keeping score.

How many people bother to do any of those things in that list? Even if they do, how many people fool themselves into wrongly thinking that they can change a person to their liking?

any type of betrayal, cheating,lying. says one thing and does another. being purposely mean to your spouse, ignoring them, never talking when they need to talk,. not finding intimacy together. sometimes disagreeing about kids,(expecially with step children involved) how they should be disciplined. money matters can cause a lot of problems. especially if one is a spend

thrift and saves and the other is extravagant and just spends ,spends, spends. but nothing can stop you from being together if it is meant to be. you have to decide if your willing to work at it. marriage is hard work. take from one who knows. 1st marriage lasted 15yrs. 2nd 1year and i'm on the 3rd and it has lasted 13yrs so far. but i was determined come hell or high water i was going to make this one work.,,, but it takes 2 and if they doesn't want to work it out.then it won't work it takes alot of give and take sometimes you will give 100% and he'll give none. another time he may give the 100% and you none. they say marriage has a 50/50 chance which is either 1/2 the time it fails or 1/2 the time it succeeds. so good luck if you are already married and contemplating leaving, remember time heals all don't do anything to hasty and keep your cool, remember anything and everything that comes out of your mouth is said for good and can never be taken back. sure it can be forgiven ,but it is never ever forgotten. so take a deep breath and take the time to truly seek what is in your heart ,mind, and soul., before jumping off into the blue. good luck and Merry Christmas..

Probably No 1 would be infidelity.

Obsessive jealousy is probably stirred in here somewhere.

Then would come credibility.

Mixed in there probably is going to be compulsive disorders.

Throw in a dysfunctional disorder or two with either the man or woman.

This might be the top five common ones

i discover this question unusual. specific, i could ought to agree that for the duration of an prolonged term dating human beings get to adventure a diverse style of happiness. 2 human beings uniting in life and sharing each and every thing with one yet another. yet i think of that happiness would be derived from all relationships. Friendships convey a pair of style of happiness. short term relationships convey happiness, yet would reason harm upon failure. Many married anybody is unhappy besides. i think of happiness is derived from life. somebody it relatively is enlightened, or conscious of themselves can locate happiness is all components of life. I talk in this as green on the grounds that I even have yet to be married. I even have witnessed pals that are in happy and unhappy settings nonetheless. i think of that the bond of marriage opens the door for a sparkling adventure of happiness.

The most common of all is mistrust. It can be money, infidelity, or even lies about little things that can shake up a foundation.

ignoring her, talking down to her, insults, name calling, wanting to do things that may embarrass her sexually, unwilling to join her in what she likes to do.loosing patience, verbal or physical abuse, lack of genuine love, falt finding, angry, demanding, irresponsible, unreliable, cheating, preoccupation with others and not meeting her needs because of it, blaming her for falts that are yours, controlling attitude, not making them feel safe or secure, no compassion or understanding, being untrustworthy, lying, but the biggest thing is infidelity, as it forever changes the marriage, and looses the trust and innocence of the marriage.

Money, Immaturity, Adultury and Trust issues.

Lack of trust, love, respect, and companionship can destroy a marriage or long term relationship.

Money (lack of money) causes lots of people to break up. So does cheating.

lack of trust, lack of communication, lack of common interests, infidelity.