My 3 1/2 yr old is masturbating, a few times a day any room and onw time in the car.. is this a problem??

Relax sweetie he's just exploring his body. Explain that we only do that sort of thing in private then let him get on with it and get over it, hey it could be worse my nephew used to take his penis out and show it to EVERYONE!!

normal child behavior no problems at all he just found his penis and found out the if he touches it feels good just tell him is a private thing to do in the bathroom or his room nothing to worrie about just make sure he dose not hurt him self oh yes you might have to remind him that that is a private thing to do. on a daily basis

PS hope i was of some help

You should say exactly what you've written. Tell them that touching himself is something he should do in private, like going to the bathroom or changing his clothes.

It's normal and healthy and the worst thing a parent can do is tell their kids they are bad or that masturbating is wrong. But I can sense by your question that you wouldn't do that.

I think you hit the nail on the head already. Just tell him he needs privacy. Touching himself is not something that is done in the car, the living room, or in public.

And yes to everyone who has said otherwise, toddlers are sexual. People don't like to think that kids are sexual beings but they are. Medieval nursemaids used to give infants orgasms to put them to sleep. (Not that we would EVER do this now). But kids do have sexual feelings and it is at the level of their physical and emotional development (meaning that it's not the full fledged sex drive that adults have). That doesn't mean they should masturbate wherever they feel like it.....but that they are NORMAL.

Good luck!

The only person its a problem for is you. He is not masterbating for pleasure as adult men do. Tell him if he must play with his penis to take it into a room where you do not have to see it, this too will pass. I was always told its around this age that the male penis begins to grow and therefore "tingle" which is why they touch it.

My son went through that when he was between 2 and 3. We just told him that if was going to do that to please do it in his bedroom or the bathroom. Just explain to him that it's not appropriate behavior except in those areas of the house. With ym son he stopped doing it when we didn't make a big deal out of it, sometimes kids will continue to do it if they think they can get attention.

This is a very NATURAL thing for him to do! Number ONE..it feels good...Number TWO...it is a way to comfort himself, which is the most popular reason children do this. At this age, a child IS NOT SEXUAL AT ALL!!! It is a normal exploratory thing...but unfortunately, once they discover that it IS comforting, and soothing...they tend do do it alot. (If you will take notice, you will see that he will be tired, or cranky or just have gotten scolded )

You have to just continue to tell him that while he finds it very comforting to "touch" himself there.. it is not appropriate to do except in private..like in his room.... (this is just something boys do because they CAN so to speak....) with enough repetition of you telling him this.....he will soon (I hope for your sake! lol! ) learn when and where he can do this...Be assured...it IS a natural thing EVEN little girls do it....just not as openly as little boys... they (little girls) seem to have a little more modesty than boys...wonder why???

boys = men... girls = women ??? LOL!

Good luck to you!!! And remember..when you get to your wits end.... THIS TOO shall pass!!!

its very very normal for a child his age ta b doing this. they r curious about there bodies n its actually very common. just tell him to go into the bathroom or his bedroom when he does it because its private. but dont scold him or make him feel ashamed because that could cause problems down the road.

Are you sure it is masterbating? Maybe your child is just curious, I would have a little talk about why your child is doing this and try explain this is a private thing not something to do infront of others.

Try not to make him feel guilt and shame about it, but explain as best you can that he needs to do that when he is alone.

Considering his age of 3.5 years,it possibly that he has some endocrine disorder- i.e,improper functioning of hormonal system.

Many conditons can cause that,which are out of scope to discuss here.

I strongly request you to visit an Endocrinologist.