The mother of my stepdaughter assaulted her boyfriend last night, do we have to let her go with tonight?

You call your case worker, or the police and discribe the situation and ask them how best to handle it. Generally if there is question about the childs welfare, they will opt to have the child left with the fit parent until they can confirm the one in question truely is safe.

Dont try to make the choice on your own, because you will want to do EXACTLY what the authorities tell you to do, to make sure the full custody deal stays intact.

Wow, I'm sure an attorney was involved at some point in all the proceedings. I wouldn't allow her to go, until I could call the attorney OR even the court system and find someone to give me an answer. If all the utilities, etc are going to be shut off, she will be put into a dangerous situation. As a last resort, maybe call the police station and talk to an officer there.....at least something will be on file that you aren't just willfully disobeying visitation orders. Good luck on this.

No you don't! Any decision made in the best interests of the child especially due to the circumstances you mentioned above, there is no reason why you should put her in the middle of this potentially dangerous situation. If need be, contact your local human services and get a social workers opinion and have the, document the reason why your keeping your daughter home. Good for you for being a good step mom.

Maybe you can get an immediate, emergency court date. Do you have a lawyer that was working with your husband on the situation? I would call a lawyer or the courts to see what you can do to help keep your step daughter safe.

I would cal the lawyer you used during custody battle and ask him advice. Nothing anyone says on here is trustworthy in a situation where you could be breaking a court order. I understand your concern and would def. call attorbey ASAP, and he can help you do the right thing without getting into trouble.

wow i does not difficulty to a lot about it, judging out of your previous questions he should be use to them being killed with the help of now coz its befell on 3 diverse activities that I have seen. and the very truth your b/f is blind in a wheel chair and shortly to have his legs decrease off ability he should be between the unluckiest human beings alive, not counting his mother and father who the position so unlucky they were given killed in 3 diverse motor vehicle crashes, possibly some-one might want to tell his dad that utilizing isn't his element. i will basically wager that some the way you get excitement out of having sympathy of human beings i guess on your existence you're a loaner who has no acquaintances, why else would you want this kind of unhappy interest i trust sorry for you

You have a court order that you must adhere to , but if she doesn't have power and is acting dangerous you should contact the child protective agency in your state before letting her go there.

well, if its a court order and you dont have her available to be picked up or make the attempt to drop her off, then consider yourself in contempt, and in texas it would fall under the charge of interfering with child custody. it usually carrys a maximum penalty of up to 18 months confinment

First, your husband won custody. You didn't. You are along for the ride dear.

Im curious how all of this happened last night and you have knowledge of it already today. It is only alittle after 9am where you are.

What you are saying does not make sense.

The apartment/house is in the boyfriends name (they are not married therefore she has no claim to the residence) yet he is leaving HIS apartment/house and cutting off all utilities. Common sense tells me he would kick her out.

I'm not saying that what you are claiming didn't actually happen, it just doesn't make any sense.

If what you are saying is true, I wouldn't do anything right now without talking to your husband. I would probably wait and see if the woman even shows up to claim her daughter. THEN I would follow them to where they are going and check out the living conditions. I would also probably contact the local police department and explain to them the situation. If this woman has had repeated reports made against her with the police, they will know and understand your concern. Anyways, check out the living conditions and call the police if necessary to retrieve the child. Do not do it on your own. Let them intervene.

One thing you could do is if you have a cell phone is give it to the child with instructions to call her father if for any reason she is feeling scared or something is not right. Tell her to call 911 if the mother and boyfriend get into another physical fight. If they get into an argument, call you and her father.

It probably would be a good idea to contact the attorney and give him/her a heads up to what may be happening.

Alittle piece of advice for you... Let your husband take the lead in this. You are his wife. You are not the girls mother. You are there to support him in whatever actions he decides is best to take.

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You can get as angry with me as you want I am just giving you facts. In a court of law you have no claim to that child unless you adopt her yourself. Also, in a court of law if the mother wanted to bring suit against you for interfering, she has the upper hand. If you can't see that I was trying to save you some hardship then that is fine. It seems to me that you are way to emotional about this right now and you need to cool down. You are not doing yourself any favors and you definitely won't be doing your step-daughter any favors if you overstep your bounds legally and her mother (who does have rights) decides to fight back.

As for your assumption that I don't understand a mothers love biological or otherwise you are wrong. I am a mother and I raised three children of my own and helped raise 4 foster children over the years. You don't hold the patent on a mothers love.

Instead of getting defensive about your place in the family and making this discussion about you, why don't you put your own feelings aside and behave in a manner that is in the best interest of your step-child.

well truly if was you then i would not let my child go...but nobody knows...ask a local police and see if its right...its not a bad thing to be curious and protective of the people you love. just make sure that you get the "okay she does not have to go to that women's house" just to be sure so you wont get into trouble if that other lady presses charges on you keeping the other girl....besides you have a good enough reason to not let her go.

just ask somebody you can really count on!