I'm confused with my own self!?

Question

I had been undet tremendous pressure and confusion for the past few days.For my intro,I had been in a very stressful r/ship in the sense tht my so called "ex" used to be torturing me with his words and scrutinity, treating me like a small kid and always saying tht i'm stubborn, wrong, and playful. i tried many times to prove to him tht i truly loved him but one small thing wud trigger his head to shout or scold me or even keep silently away from me.there were days i used to cry to him tht i truly want him back but he will say hurting words lke i'm with other men or i'm not serious with him.i used to be in pain for almost 3 years.flunk my exams coz i cudnt concentrate.(I got my degree in Law anyway now).About 6 months back, i got to know sumone new but he's way much older then me.Only he managed to recover me from my past trauma and he gav me so much unconditional love.he's really a nice man and i love him so much.i'm confused now coz i keep thinking abt my ex.i called my ex.wat 2 do?

Update:

my bf is a very bz guy. he's a very veyr nice man. but when he doesnt call me, my mind wonders back to my ex. my ex doesnt know any my bf and i know he'll shout at me and say tht 'm a bit** (he called me tht many times). when my bf calls me, i feel like running to an angel. he's a very nice man. but when he's bz i feel so lost . i am so confused!

wizard of the East · Accepted Answer

'from the frying pan to the fire' let this not happen to you. Yes you must leave this man who is torturing you, and is insensitive to your feelings.  Leave him immediately.  You may be friendly and use the other elderly man to recover yourself. You do not know his motives fully. Then you must make a decision and maybe you will find the 'perfect man' for you in a relaxed and clear mind.

ldyria · Answer

The only reason that you keep thinking of the abusive one is that you still are under that same mental state.  When the new one gets busy and you feel alone you go back in your mind to the other.  Hun, all I can say is that I do understand, I have been there before.  You have to believe in yourself and understand that you actually do not need to be with someone who hurts you.  You need to be true to yourself.

Anonymous · Answer

Basically, what your ex did is brainwash you. Old saying, running water will eventually wear away a rock. Be strong, fight it! If you think you need help in doing so, get it. But under no circumstances yield!

joey p · Answer

he calls you a what??my god girl forget about him. Painfully obvious he has a total lack of respect for you and he doesn't deserve you.

Anonymous · Answer

you need professional help and you need to stay away from your abusive ex.....pull yourself together...good luck

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