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Need some advice concerning a girl I like...?

Recently I got together with a girl I've been friends with for a long time. Our becoming involved was completely unexpected, but it happened. I played it cool at first because I didn't want to read anything into what had happened because I wasn't sure just how serious she was about me. Had to go out of town and she began sending me text messages saying that she wanted me to hurry home because she missed me. That's not the problem, because I was glad to hear that and my feelings are definitely growing stronger. The problem is that she is "hot and cold", one day she's all about me and the next she's quite stand offish. I haven't told her I love her, but I definitely feel like I'm falling hard. I try not to come on too strong because I don't want to scare her away. Can anyone tell me what to do here? It's been a long time since I've been in a relationship, so perhaps you girls can give me some advice on what you like in a man, e.g. how you want us to act in a relationship.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    Treat her as you would want to be treated, plain and simple. Remember, girls are a little more complex than guys, emotionally, we have a ton more we worry about, etc., hence, could be the "standoffish" ways sometimes? In any case, be there for her, support her, love her, but don't smother her. Sounds like you are a nice person, be yourself!

  • 1 decade ago

    well, we girls would like a guy thats nice and sweet and protective and crazy about us but doesn't smother us and gives us some space. maybe she thinks that your not very serious because you act a little too cool about the situation. and maybe she acts a little to stand offish cuz she might be too scared to get too close to you and if she does shes scared she might lose you good as a boyfriend and a friend. you seem like a good person just be youself and you'll be fine. if you still have problems and need some advice, email me. and I think I might want ask u some questions. if this source doesn't work here is my email:walmart_parakeet@yahoo.com

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  • 1 decade ago

    bro welli think u should just go with the flow

    if u feel like sayin somthin u should coz if u dont thenits not u is it

    be urself

    and do the things ur way behave the way u want to coz

    thats who u r in a relationship

    and thats how u suppose to act ur true self

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Well, I would just sit down with her and tell her. I hated all the head games when I was dateing(married for 7 yrs now). Maybe she thinks that your "hot and cold too" . Just say you want to talk to her about something! It's a chance you'll have too take, our wonder about the rest of your life!

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    Lv 4
    5 years ago

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  • 1 decade ago

    don't assume that her attitude is directly related to you. there could be all sorts of things going on in her life, and they could be affecting the way she acts towards many people, yourself included. just keep being yourself, as the others said, and also let her know that you are always there for her... you don't have to go right out and say it if you think that sounds strange, but just hinting at it may be enough to bring her around.

  • 1 decade ago

    just be 100% you. and if you love her let her know

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