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Husband and old flame?

I am 32 years old and have been with my husband (who is 9 years older than me) since I have been 19. I have had a decent relationship with my husband. He does everything to support us financially, but he is usually not a guy who participates in "family" time kinda stuff. Usually, when he does participate he ends up pouting and ruining the day for everyone. I do not feel like he is there for me emotionally.

Recently, I have had some contact with an old flame. I am having very strong feelings for this person and he states the same. I do not want to hurt my husband, but I do not want to severe ties with the old flame? I feel so much more like "myself" when I am around him. For some odd reason, I always feel like I am never good enough or like I am being judged by my husband. Anyways, I am just extremely confused with what I am feeling? Help?!

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  • 1 decade ago
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    Rethink this carefully ... the "old flame" is an ex for a reason. While he may be making you feel good about yourself and is there for you emotionally, he is not likely to want to assume your children and will probably be less involved in any "family time" than your current husband.

    Granted, you feel loved and wanted by the old flame, because he is stroking you in a way that your husband isn't. He is providing what is lacking in your marriage, but is he doing it because he doesn;t have to live with you day to day? Again... WHY is he an ex relationship? Its very easy to be what someone wants you to be when you are outside of a relationship and the object of your affections is vulnerable, which you are, so, are you really sure you want to add this complication to your already distressed marriage? What happens when the "old flame" comes to the realization that you are willing to cheat on your husband? Will you also be willing to cheat on him if you two hook up and you are faced with an unhappy relationship? Believe me, he wont feel like he can trust you .. for all that, would you want a man who has no compunction about wedging himself into an existing marriage? It would serve you and your hubby better to see a marriage counselor to try to salvage your 13 years of history and marriage than to take a chance on a relationship with an old flame who wasn;t up to snuff when you were 19.

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    6 years ago

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  • 5 years ago

    Does your husband smoke weed and look at porn?

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