How can I be sure her ex hubby, since they both seperated, won't be posseive if we meet?

mate, if you are rebound boyfriend you are better off backing off a bit... er feelings for him just wont go away like that....

What you have to do is grow strength to protect yourself and her from hurt. It is lying there waiting for you if you put yourself in that situation. Believe me.. no matter how much you love them... it will not be enough to forgive them once they betray you and return or sleep with their ex.... You may say you forgive... but you will never ever forget nor will the hurt go away. You will just get used to it.... ow ... while you still have a chance.... back away from her.. she will be nothing but trouble.

BUT if it has been a while and if she clearly does not want to have any contact with him then it might be worth to stay.. but hold your guard.

This is a tough one, but u have to put urself in her exes shoes. He probably thinks that another man will he raising his kid and that would hurt. I know that if u and this woman have a relationship u have to have one with the kid also, but how sure r u that she can handle another relationship already? Has she told u that is completely over with her ex? Make sure that u talk about these types of things before u do something else that u may regret.

Has he left the house ??? (if not he needs to go )

If you can both get along....in the long run it might be best for all of you especially the kid. No one says you have to give up. Just push him out slowly and soon he'll be gone...(unless she's the one who wants him around and I'm afraid it'll break your heart.)

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Good luck !!!

Let her choose who to be with, but if you do stay together, don't try to stop him from being in his child's life.