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I wont do anything but I must say this....?

I have never been in a more desperate situation as I am now...

She is in my mind every single moment...Thoughts of her bring tears in my eyes and I am not afraid to cry though I am a man...In her i have found the dream I never dared dream of in fear of it never coming to be...

And I cannot do anything about it because she is dating a friend of mine...

I have done everything to make their relationship go better, I even talked them out of fights on several occasions...

We have spent endless hours talking and found that there is nothing we dont have in common...And never,not once,have I let her see my feelings...

It is not a crush...It is not excitement...It is not me being jealous...

I would NEVER do anything to hurt a friend's feelings,but still I am dying...I think of her and I cannot breathe...

Please...

If you are "answering" only to get your 2 points please find another question...

And before you start criticizing how "bad" a friend I am... read the question again...

Update:

I really wish people would really read through the question...

Some accused me of saying that I "love" her... Love is a word that does NOT appear in my question... I never said I love her... should i? How could I?

But if i must use the word so that i satisfy the blindfolds of people then "I really wish the situation was right so that I could show her that i love her"...

Thank you.... From the bottom of my heart....

Update 2:

I am sorry... I really am... But yes... I do love her.... So much it is killing me...

And that i did not use this word in my question is simply because i think it is too small a word for what i am feeling...

Again I thank you all... And forgive my frustration...

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  • jade s
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    Im answering not bcoz i want the 2 points, its nothing. Just want to tell you , i really feel like crying after i saw your question. You know what, you are looking at something you want but don't adre to get it, you are not afraid to cry , why not try to show her how you feel about her, just a slight hint, im not telling you to just snatch her from her present boyfriend, just hint lightly, for your imformation if you keep doing this, you will not get true happiness, you will always be hurt and always hide your own true feelings, hey man!! It sucks, go out there, gather your courage, tell her, if not just hint, its better then popping your head in the sand and hope every thing will go well, best if she would "suddenly" fall in love with you .... ( Sorry man, it is not going to turn out this way.) You want happiness, go and GET it. God will help thoes who help themself, and you .......

    Source(s): My heart... and tiny brain...
  • 1 decade ago

    Man, you are in a tough situation, but I respect you for being a true friend and not acting on your feelings out of respect for your friend. I wish I had some good advise on how to handle this but all I can say is to wait it out. If you 2 have really hit it off and you are always there for her, one day it will happen. I firmly believe that if 2 people are meant to be together they will be at some point in time. People come into our lives for a reason. Hang in there and I wish you the best of luck. You sound like a good person who deserves a break.

  • 1 decade ago

    ufffff......not a nice place to be no?.......ur friend loves her? do u love her? does she loves u? are so many questions to find an answer...i was in the same situation and i can tell u if u will be wiht her ur friend will suffer a lot.....i was inlove with a friend of my bf....and when we decided to break up and i told him why.....well let;'s say he was not feeling too good about it....right now u can see how strnog is ur friendship with him.....better now then later.....anyway i think u can't go on like this no?.....before u do anything tlak to her and tell her very frankly what u feel for her....and if she feels the same way then u can both decide what is to be done.....is she doesn't feel anything for u...ur in big problems....coz she may go to ur friend and tell him everything.....so whatever u decide to do...think twice..and be ready to accept the effects of what will do.....wish u all the best.....flory

  • 1 decade ago

    How good is the relationship with your friend and his girl? How long has it been going on? Are you sure she doesn't like you too? Don't break up there fights, stay out of their relationship, let what happens happens, and without you maybe they'll break up and the two of you can date. Maybe...just go for it think of who will be there in 20 years, is he that good of a friend? Tell her your undying love and see what happens.

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  • 1 decade ago

    Ä° see it should be very difficult for you.I had an experience like that,but believe me no treatment is improved for love during this million years.If you love her so deep i have to say you wont get rid of that tears and this heart ache .So there is one thing to do,you are going to risk yourself you are going to make something crazy ,you are going to phone her and say 'I have tried to pretend myself for many times ,but i cant .I just want you to know that I love you'.

    Good luck friend

    difficult loves makes your spirit mature day to day

    if you are brave and sacrificing enough to hide that as a secret listen my advice and go out with another girl .It is not a solution but there is no solution for love.

  • 1 decade ago

    You're in a lot of pain. The only thing that you can do is to spend less time with her. You can't have her & the constant contact will only hurt you more. Wean yourself off of her slowly. Find other ways to spend your time. If you are spending so much time communicating with her, she probably knows that you feel something for her. You are enjoying the time together but it's killing you inside. I don't think she would want that hurt for you. Please find the strength & the courage to walk away.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    This is called infatuation.Real love is something between 2 people who feel the same way about each other.You sound like a beautiful romantic and I hope you can find someone who will love that about you!Try not to waste too much energy on this person.Fantasy is always better than reality.

  • 1 decade ago

    u should talk to the girl and let her know how u feel, but also say that u dont want to break up her and ur friend..... and she could feel the same way about u but u need to talk to her, not when ur friend is around!!!! good luck

  • 1 decade ago

    it is your freedom to love her...you can continue to love her,coz love is a feeling wherein you dont ask for anything in return.. love her with all your heart,but always keep in mind that your friend loves her as much as you do..since he is still with her and all...

  • 1 decade ago

    dear !! i'm jus in the same situation where you are. i seriously loved a girl for 2 yrsm but she loves my friend........me 2 don know wat to do.!!! but my opinion, jus watch them lovin, don cry jus see tat they are happy and tat she have became his. Then only u'll be able 2 get her out of mind. you may not find it practical and its not 2 easy. i cudn't do it first.......but soon u'll be able to......try 2 find a girl who loves u, hu's lik .

    u may write 2 me

    byeeeee

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