why is divorce seen as the only answer when a spouse has sex with some one else when they keep returning to?

WELL, PEOPLE NOW A DAYS DO NOT WANT TO WORK ON THIER MARRIAGE THEY FIND IT ALOT EASIER TO JUST SIGN SOME PAPERS......

THEY FEEL THAT ONCE SOMEONE HAS CHEATED THERE IS NOT WAY THEY COULD EVER GET OVER IT BECAUSE INSTEAD OF LETTING THE PAST GO THEY PERFER TO LIVE IN THE PAST... EVERYONE MAKES MISTAKES ONCE IN AWHILE NO ONE IS PERFECT, PEOPLE NEED TO UNDERSTAND THAT.........

EVEN THE GOD FEARING PEOPLE DIVORCE AND THAT IS A SIN SO YEA EVEN THEN PEOPLE CHOOSE TO WALK AWAY....

I don't think divorce is the "only" answer, some people settle for the cheating spouse, and spend their lives complaining about him or her on Yahoo answers. Not many people can accept the fact that they cannot trust their spouse. Trust is a pretty fundamental thing. You can even forgive them for their transgressions - but still not be willing to put up with it over and over, and thus go for divorce, even after having forgiven. Forgivness is not enough, there also has to be willingness to accept the other person as they are, and I think very few people would ever truly accept that their partner is not to be trusted. They will either keep trying to change them - and most likely fail, or else throw in the towel, and look elsewhere.

I wish divorce was the answer. I am writing from the other side and don't expect much sympathy but maybe it will help someone. I am in an unhappy marriage and saw no other way but (as my father puts it) learn to live with the mistake I made--life could be worse. Divorce is wrong I thought. Then I met another man (yes, a co-worker) and we became very good friends. He made me laugh and our friendship meant everything until he started pursuing a relationship beyond our friendship three years later. I resisted initially and he convinced me that he loved me and wanted to be with me. A year and a half goes by and I was prepared to leave my husband and start over with my bestfriend and lover. He made promises--set a time-line and even asked me to think about having a child...although I was frightened I was willing to do what needed to be done. To make a long story short, he gets his wife pregnant because he feels he owes it to his daughter to have a sibling. He says he still loves me and has had sex with me even after she got pregnant. I missed him so much--I feel like I have been broken beyond repair. Everyday I see him at work and I cry. It's like watching a bad movie I can't turn off. She is having the child he promised to me and I have to watch the process. I hate him and I love him. Sometimes I feel like just ending everythin and driving to his house and telling her what he's done. It hurts to see the shambles my life is in while I watch him happily sail through his. But, this would only give me a momentary feeling of vindication. I would cause more sadness for others. He says he will try to love me but no guarantees--I believe he loves me--as sad as that sounds--but I don't know how he can he watch me suffer like this and call it love. I want him back--I want what he promised and I know that saying that makes me sound pathetic. Let me tell you...it is not easy to say 'ok--that's it I'm dumping your sorry a**!" I'm not sure how much longer I can stand this pain.

What a stupid question.....if you are married to someone and TRULY love them you wouldn't be out screwing around with other people. If my husband cheated on me, yes CHEAT, you better believe a divorce will follow. When we took our marriage vows I took them very seriously, especially the part about being "FAITHFUL UNTO HER/HIM". If my husband wanted to go out and have sex with other women then it would be time for the both of us to move on because he apparently doesn't love me anymore. I could forgive but would never be able to forget or trust him again. I don't think people do it out of "revenge", who wants to be married to a cheating spouse who enjoys having sex with other people? That would just be miserable.

Some people don't think that way. I happen to be one of them. My husband cheated on me in September with a co-worker. This wasn't the first time, I wanted him away from me for a little while, but he refused to leave me alone, even for a short period of time. We are still together working things out. It is easier to give up, but sometimes it is worth it to make things work. The thing that hurts is you lose the trust. My husband could come and go as he pleased, did what he wanted when he wanted. He does not have that freedom right now. He still thinks of this person (who I might add is also married), he tells me that he still has feelings for her. I had him change his schedule so that he worked days, when she works nights. By doing this, I have lessened the time they would have had together. Anyway, I refuse to give up and I know he does too. He realizes he made a mistake, and believe me when I tell you, he is paying for it.

People don't want to work hard on their marriages when these situations happen. Let's just throw in the towel and get a divorce. It's sad really. People are too lazy and selfish. It's ridiculous.

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My husband cheated and I forgave him I'm trying to work on it but I also let him know that if this EVER happens again that yes I would divorce him.

divorce is not the only answer.you can stay with someone that runs around on you if you want too..If you can handle a runaround then forgive and stay....most people do not want to stay with a spouse that cheats,because they do it over and over,but its your choice,if you don,t mind we don,t mind.

why the @#$@# would you forgive your spouse for ^$%^#$$## someone else when they are supposed to be only with you? divorce would be my answer. sorry, i dont take kindly to cheating.