Boyfriends mother is a complete nag and at ends wit! What should I do?

leave the mama's boy

Best think talk to all of them and show his mother that you arent what she things. Thats with anything in a sense "man up" and show how much you care. Thats all that really matters. And just keep working on it slowly if it doesnt come up all the way. And you have to show that ur different from other "Black" ppl sorry if that sounds racist but i am going to put it in the terms you put it in. So her that your classy, nice,well mannered; and you will go far. And i tell you this because I have only been attracted to a few darker people, and that was because they were smart and intellegent and just the nicest ppl you will ever meet. The only thing is a majority are what you see in rap videos and once again i am not trying to be racist i am not i am going by what i have come across and im open to everyone. you have to go away from the stereotype and that is where i think you will find her approval.

It's difficult to be in this situation. Some people are ignorant and if your dealing with an alcoholic I feel for you there is nothing anyone can do but put her in detox and that has to be a relative that is a husband and or parents, and then they have to be a danger to themselves or someone else. Your boyfriend has to deal with this and its hard because this is his mother and he loves her. No matter what she carried him 9 months and I'm sure she has reminded him of this. His parents have made sure he went to college and has given him a material things. If he loves you after he thinks his debt is paid he should stand his ground on his feelings for you. I would not move in with some one that does not claim me as his 2 year old girlfriend. You should stand your ground and protect yourself. No one should be hidden, how can you feel loved or respected ? Do you see yourself in this long term? Parents come along with the person you get involved with. Do some soul searching......What's good for the both of you?

You can't expect for him to not have a relationship with his mother because of you!! I do think that he needs to grow up and stop fronting for his mother, I can't believe he lies about the relationship just to appease her! Let him know what you expect of him as far as letting his mother know how he feels about you regardless of how she feels. I hope he doesn't have racist tendencies deep down and get angry enough to call you out of your name! I only say that because that is a concern I have when entertaining the idea of an interracial relationship. Good Luck!

look Tell the C U Next Tuesday what you think of her and that her little boy isn't on her tit any more so she better back the f up off ya. If he cant handle it there's a curb with his name on it. You can walk down the street and find ten Honkies who's mamas aren't living in 1932. If he loves you he should have your back on this, he has kept quiet to keep out of a situation, but it sounds like she started one.

He knew how his mother was before you two got together. He's used to her talking like that. I feel bad that he won't stand up for you better. I would only be able to deal with the situation you're in just because I know the mom is stupid.

Honestly the only choices you have is to deal with it or break up with him. Don't expect him to choose between you and his mother. I know you love him but face the reality that you may have to give him up in order for him to grow up and realize that his mother can't dominate his life.

Its time he moved out of the house and gotten away from that racist ***** he lives with that he likes to call his mother.

Tell him I said that and tell him the next time his mom talks about you, he should tell her he is leaving the house. I hate racism, anyone who is racist has my strong belief they should not live.

You must deal with this issue head on.

Talk to your boyfriend first, and if he's no help, drag him to his mothers and confront her in a POLITE manner.

Do not make your boyfriend pick sides.

Sorry to say but sounds like he needs the help.Him handling his two different loves appropriately is what is needed.