Why do lesbians like women that look like men?

I hope that I'm not getting into 'semantic arguments about what "feminine" and "masculine" mean', but here goes:

Sexual orientation is based on what sex you are attracted to- sex meaning your biological sex: your chromosomes, your genitals, and your secondary sex characteristics (voice, hair and skin texture, musculature and fat distribution, height, etc., etc.). Men who like men are gay, men who like women are straight, women who like women are lesbians, and women who like men are straight. Period.

However, there is also such thing as gender, which is all the various ways that we act, talk, look, dress, style ourselves, and overall behave, which exists on a scale of masculinity and femininity. It doesn't have to correspond with your sex; there are feminine women and masculine men, and there are feminine men and masculine women. In our society, we don't yet have the words to express attraction to gender- only to sex. It's a sad fact of our language that the concept doesn't exist to say 'I like feminine men'- you have to use 'gay', which encompasses another group of people (masculine men) in which you have no interest. Same with lesbians.

Basically, to be lesbian is to like women, or, to put it differently, female bodies. Butch women have female bodies. That they happen to be masculine is irrelevant in terms of sexual orientation. Some women are simply wired to like the masculine gender, but the female sex. I know for me, I simply love masculinity. I like it on men, and I absolutely adore it on women (I'm bisexual). Same thing for the lesbians who like butch women- they like masculinity, but only on a woman. Beyond that, I can't tell you why we like 'em- it's like asking why anyone likes anyone!

Hope that helps; I know it's a confusing thing.

It is all a matter of what a woman wants. I know many males that flame and some that don't. It is just what people want. I have had a more manly lover and she was a woman in the bedroom. Which means she did eveything other women do just fine. Also I have had very fem lovers. Right now my wife is someplace in the middle and she says I am more butch that she is. Thats ok becasue in the bedroom I am all woman just like she is.

What it comes down to is not only what that person likes but the person they want to be with might just have a kind and loving nature that makes them all the more wanted.

I find it is easier to look at people from the neck up and not the neck down. That way you know and love the person and not the shell that is holding that person while here on earth

I do not totally agree with you. Some gays that are men and women, can look very much like a female and male and still be gay. Can also be hard to tell sometime if they are gay. I live in Texas, lots of gays live here. I am not gay, never have been, never will be, but I think the ones that really butch out, wants to be noticeable as being gay more than the ones that do not. Only one time in my life, a lesbian made a pass at me, by the time she woke up, I had finished my meal, paid my ticket and was walking out the front door. I am one hundred percent female, not interested in same sex relationships.

While it is true that there are may "butch" lesbians, there are many "lipstick" lesbians as well. I think as much as women would not like to admit it, they all have an internal need to feel taken care of by a male, dominate or father figure. Just like many straight men look to their wives or g/f's to play the role of "mommy" figure. Doing all the little details that make a house a home. Everyone in a functional relationship seems to assume one of these roles, I believe.

Makes since. If you like women, you want women who like women. If you like guys, you want a guy that looks like a guy. But its deeper than that. Drag queens aren't just gay, they want to be women. And Butch girls want to be guys. The transgender, transvestite, they want to be the other sex. This is just speculation, from my own thoughts, and what I think. The words "masculine" and "feminine" are relative to different people. Some view masculine as being muscular, protective of family, etc. Some view feminine as being very girly, lover of all things pink, and very sensitive and gentle. Yet there are those who stem on the outside and aren't the stereotypical assumed descriptions. When I'm tired I think a lot.

I think that it's kind of about personal connection. Lesbians who like butch lesbians are still looking for something in particular that doesn't quite fit all the way with the male characteristics. Personal taste, I guess...

Because its what they like and want. if a woman likes butch women then she likes butch women. If you say, why doesnt she just get with a man? Well if she wanted to get with a man then she would be with a man. Its a matter of preference. Maybe she knows something ya'll dont know.

I don't think thats true. I think that many gay men are not drag queens, but they are slightly more feminine than the average straight man. I think that there are straight people who like really feminine and masculine people and there are queer people who do. We just see the stereotypical stuff more often, but its all out there.

Because even gays cannot escape the natural human desire to want the opposite of themselves. Notice that even in gay and lesbian relationships one plays a man and the other a woman. If anything it shows how natural heterosexual relationships are. A woman cannot escape her want of masculinity and a man cannot escape his want of femininity. They simply like what would be natural to them after the rejection of the masculine gender.

I've never been attracted to a butch woman i want someone who puts just as much time and effort in their appearance hair makeup etc. if i want a man i want the real thing not a woman acting like a man