seven-year-old missing his dad?

Keep your son's mind busy. Offer to enroll him in something he likes. The damage is done and only gets worse as he sees his dad's promises don't come true. Talk to him and tell him you are sorry for what he is going through but you want to help him because you love him. You can also see if you can set up a big brother for him. I don't know if the big brother program would be able to help. Do all you can for him to be entertained and talk to you about his feelings.

As far as his father. If you have already told him how your son feels and he is not trying harder to be there for him then tell him to call once a month and tell his son he loves him and send a picture. You are right you can't force him to be a better father.

The man is a loser but, sadly, there's nothing you can do to change that. All you can do is support your son until he's old enough to see for himself that he's better off without this pathetic-excuse-for-a-father. Don't bad-mouth your ex to your son but, equally, don't make excuses for him. Just be honest with your son that his Dad isn't coming to visit and prepare him for disappointment when his Dad is due to call/visit. Say that his Dad loves him but he just can't be with him and you don't know why he's like that only that it's nothing to do with the child.

You might also try to find good male role models for your son elsewhere so he feels he does have someone he can talk to about 'man' things. If you can't get a grandfather or uncle to spend time with him then perhaps you should enrol him in something like Scouts or a sporting activity so he's mixing with male adults that he can look up to.

The best thing you can do is try to make him forget the deadbeat dad which fortunately he will do on his own as my daughter has done...when she was smaller she used to ask for him and i would let her call him and he would make those empty promises to her and finally she just stopped asking for him and knew that anything he ever promised never came through so why count on it...my daughter is now 16 and i have brought the loser up on several occasions and she just has no desire to even talk about him or anything...its an unfortunate thing but just be the best mother you can be and i hope you at least get a few bucks of child support out of him because you already have the best thing that ever will come out of him ( your son) cause he is just another deadbeat loser dad there are too many of them on this earth...good luck to you

If you live near your parents, maybe your dad can take him on boys day out and spend time with him or maybe they have a big brother/big sister program in your area you could see about signing him up for that. It sounds like it may help if he has some other kind of man to look up to.

i recognize you do not favor to hearken to it, yet this is a classic signal of disturbance at abode. the baby is perplexed and dissatisfied, and his bowel conduct are a manifestation of that. holding feces for prolonged sessions is a baby's way of controlling some thing about his ecosystem, even as he sounds like each thing else is previous his administration. How lengthy have you ever been seeing his father? what's the problem which includes his mom, and his abode existence there? If he's already seeing the college psychologist, per chance this must be a tip-off that he's not any longer adjusting nicely to the differences in his existence. even with the actual incontrovertible truth that this habit is demanding to you, per chance you should judge how this baby ought to sense. he's not being lazy. No baby of seven needs to poop in his pants. He desires more suitable knowledge from you. you are able to assume those issues to accentuate, noticeably after the hot toddler comes, in case you do not manage them wisely. this does no longer comprise shaming the baby. If his father says no to drag ups, then no. i do not truly comprehend how he's your stepson in case you're not any further married to his father. Edit: You reported your self the mum is unreliable and has moved round alot. only because you are able to nicely be "the in trouble-free words "consistent" in his existence" would not advise his emotional issues will be remoted to his mom's abode. The tone of your question is one in all annoyance, no longer one in all difficulty.

Just go on about your lives and try to be understanding to your boys about their dad but don't lie or say mean things it will bite you in the butt in the end if there is a big brother organization contact them and see about getting a big brother for them

I can't image your pain at seeing your child in pain and my heart goes out to all of you Good luck

It's good that he's seeing a counselor providing they are a good one and it's helping. Have you asked the counselor for advice on this matter? It sounds like you are doing your best. Reassure your children that you love them and apologize for their father without making excuses for him or badmouthing him. Their isn't really a whole lot more than that that can be done when a parent doesn't want to do their job, unfortunately.

u have to be the best mom u can, be there for them. I always made my children call there dad for b-day parties and all school activities, all holidays. that way they were never convinced i never told there dad and he missed out because of me. all the unfulfilled promises u have to bear with and that's the hard part. My kids eventually realized their dad was a loser and never bothered with him again its been 10yrs. and they still chose not to take to him. By their on choice, not mine.

You could try to redirect your son's attention to another male role model. What about an uncle or getting a Big Brother mentor? Hope it helps.

I think you can just be the best mom you can be and in time they will realize that their dad is not who they think he is. You are absolutely doing the right thing by giving your ex-husband every chance to see them. Good luck.