Engagement Ring Double Moral?

I used my grandmothers engagement ring, therfore ensuring that I loved it.

But when it comes to my husband buying me jewelry, he is not so hot at it. The first time he ever bought me something it was a bracelette and we had been married for about 2 years. I opened it and was shocked that he would think I would like it. He saw my displeasure, because honestly how can you hide it, and said "The sales lady really liked it" I looked at him dumbfounded and said "Oh, then you better rewrap this so you can give it to her" Ever since then I have to go point to things I like and just be surprised as top what piece I have pointed at that I get.

Its never going to change. The other day we were looking at engagement rings because its our 10th soon and I feel I have waited 10 years, I deserve a nice rock from him. And every time I pointed something out he said "you like that????" Almost 10 years and he still doesnt know my tastes. Some guys just arent great jewelry picker outers. But I think most guys have the same mentality as my husband does "I wanted to get you something, you have seen that I tried. However, if you dont like it please get something you do like. I have spent too much money for you to put it in a jewelry box and never wear it" I have no problem with a woman exchanging any piece of jewelry, especially and engagement ring, for something that more suits their taste. As long as they are not trading up for a bigger diamond. Thats shallow.

This is why I'm picking out my own engagement ring! But anyways, liking the ring used in the proposal should NOT affect whether you marry the guy or not -- THAT'S shallow. If a guy proposes to you with NO ring, you should still take him seriously and give an honest answer, and not hinge your response upon the type of jewelry he did or did not select.

But if the ring isn't to your liking, it's a delicate issue. Perhaps wearing it for a while will make it grow on you; the selection was from the heart, after all, and that's what really counts. But if it's something you really can't live with, you can always upgrade at a later date with something more to your style.

Example: If a guy puts no effort what so ever in picking out the one she likes, and puts no effort in to saving a little bit for it, and just buys it with what he has at the time, then why should a girl have to ABSOLUTELY love it? -- because he bought it?!

No, you can still love the man and not like the ring and there isn't a problem with that. Men and Women have different tastes in jewelry and usually a woman knows what kind of ring she wants. Just listen to her, or even ask her.. to avoid this issues... The woman has to wear the ring for her life, why get something she doesn't like.. If money is an issue then tell her that, and maybe something can be worked out..

I think there was more going on in the guys head as to what she will say how do i propose , where do i propose and a ring i can afford.

When a person that you really care for gives you a gift, you compliment the gift and say thank you. That is the right way to go with it.

My fiance recently proposed to me and when i got the ring, i didnt like it that much. Because i personally dont wear jewelery because i dont want to be hunted down for my jewels or anything.

The ring he got me was BIG at least for me, but he was so worried that i would not like the ring, which was how he kind of proposed, he stumbled over his words saying i wanted the ring to be like this and sorry its not big enough and all.

but no one understands the stress a man goes with everything, and when he wants to propose he jumbles up all the words.

An engagement ring is a symbol of his love to you. You should think of it like a certificate just accept it, because you know that is more than just a ring.

My ring is very uncomfortable in my hand, and it does draw alot of eyes which i dont like, but hey... i chose him , so i go with his taste. and now i love my ring, because i love to see that i am engaged to the best man in the world and on top of that the ring says its own sotry of how it got picked.

When you change your ring, it wont be the same anymore, it wont feel the same or look the same. At least not in his eyes.

Dont break his heart, he went heart and soul for that ring. The symbol of his love to you.

My guy didnt know what my taste was, but he took his sister and mother with him to decide what i would like.

I would first consider and respect my boyfriend's economics, to me any type of engagement ring makes me happy...as long as it's a standard engagement ring.

my first engagement ring was part of a trio (both wedding bands included, in 1988) very economical but I wore it with happines.

I can add that I have big hands and the smaller the ring, the softer my hand will look.

hey, the good intention is what counts! and that's not just getting the ring...it's what comes afterwards

If you are getting engaged then you should know her well enought to know what she would like. Simple as that... I know my husband got it right without me being there to pick it out...actually without me even knowing that he was going to ask me to marry him. I know that if left to his taste he would have picked out something different...but he certainly considered what I was like and did well. As for being shallow and materialistic I think if a girl complains that the ring isn't "big" enough then that's exactly what she's being.

I think a guy should consider what the girl likes, likes metal color, size, etc. I don't think, for example, that he should give her one with a huge diamond if he knows she would prefer a smaller one. He should definitley consider her tastes when he picks one out. As for dealing with not liking the one he picked out, I think I've told my boyfriend many times what I do and do not like when it comes to jewelry so hopefully when he does propose someday he'll pick the perfect one. If it wasn't, I would just live with it and get another one on like the 5th anniversary or something.

I think an engagement ring is special; it is not an ordinary gift from a guy to a girl, it has special significance. I think the guy should be allowed to choose the ring for the girl, and she should be totally flattered to be asked to be married, and graciously accept the ring if she consents to marry him.

I think a man should always have his fiancee there when he picks out the ring. If they want to be romantic, they can still propose, but the bride will always appreciate it more if they have a choice in the ring.

I think you should put forth some effort into finding out what the girl likes, or even take her out shopping with you, if you have previously discussed marriage and you are not trying to surprise her. My fiance paid attention to what I said when we talked about jewelry and things and picked out the perfect ring. If you are unsure what she might like, talk to her friends, they will know.