Why should I lie and say that I have been separated for a year?

Yes i did the same thing and said i was seperated overe a year so i could have a quick divorce too. its easier and you get them out of your life faster. what ever he's promising you however make sure you have it in writing or put on a legal document they can tell you anything and you trust them and then bam later everything was a lie.

I agree with what Joan had to say--that you should demand the IRA as well if he wants you to say that you've been separated for a year. If he wants you to lie, then get absolutely EVERYTHING you can from him before you do it.

I'm 21 now, and my parents have been divorced for ten years. My mom didn't really have much money and she could not afford a lawyer, so the divorce was done through one of those do-it-yourself kits, and my father pretty much made out like a bandit. She wan't given any alimony (though they'd been married 13 years, and the minimum alimony requirement is a marriage lasting at least 10 years), barely any child support (it was like $150 a month for two girls--IF he decided to pay it) and on top of that, we had to rush and move because we lost the house.

From that experience, I would say that you should go through a lawyer--ESPECIALLY if you have children, and that you should talk over whatever decisions you are going to need to make with any close friends or relatives. They'll know your situation better and be able to gauge what to do in your case.

Make sure you get that IRA! And get in writing the fact that he promised you the house and the furniture. Also look into who owns the car/cars... or any stocks, bonds, whatever money you may have with him. If both your names are on things like CDs, have him sign them over to you, or at least make damn sure you get your share.

It seems like he's wanting a quick divorce so that he can get with some other chick who seems to be controlling him. If he's sleeping around, then stick it right back to him and take him for everything you can. Don't do him any favors!!!

God bless you and I wish you all the luck in the world! I'm also sorry to hear this, but at least you have your wits about you--keep it that way. Good luck!

I think Louisiana is one of those states, that it doesn't matter if something was acquired before the marriage or not, they still divide it equitibly. The reason he wants you to lie about the separation has something to do with that IRA, if you say that you've been separated, then it won't count as marital property, therefore you won't get a dime from that. Speak with an attorney about this ASAP, but I agree with everyone else, ask for EVERYTHING since he wants you to put your freedom on the line, and put his a** out, he doesn't need to use you for room and board, tell him catch up with his b***h.

he seeks a quick divorce because he either wants to remarry, or his mistress has now given him an ultimatum and is running the show, tell him u want the IRA also, he sure wants that divorce in a hurry. it may be safe to get the advice of an attorney, to see where he might benefit. must be some reason.

Don't fall for that. If you are caught lying, you could be in trouble. If he wants a quickie divorce, make him go to Arkansas and rent an apartment.

Refuse to lie, whatever reasons he has for you wanting to lie are not good ones.

He wants the other thing, he's tried to be straight, but a lass, he likes his buddies @ss.

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