only child syndrome??

I think that alot of the problem is probably the age gap, there is only about 12 months between them. Your daughter didn't get to the indipandence stage before you had another baby in your arms, she just wants to be your world again.

My sister in law had that. Her son Timothy was born on the 21st of December and the next year on the 26th of December her daughter Angel was born. Timothy was an abosolute terror towards Angel. You couldn't put her down anywhere or else he would be hurting her. Even now with Timothy being 5 and Angel 4 they sound just the same as your 2.

I don't really have much advice on how to fix it, I just more wanted to let you know that you are not alone. Maybe just try ignoring her when she acts in a way that you don't approve of, and just try to treat them equally.

Good Luck

Just wanted to add something else. I really don't like people who get on here and write mean things or talk like they know everything about everything. People who get on here to ask a question are wanting help not condemnation, and I don't think that it is anyone's right to comment on someone else's parenting style (I'm sorry if I have done that).

She does these things to get attention, and they must have worked at least once. I do not think the main problem is that she wants to be an only child; she is at an age when children ARE the center of their world. They think they have the whole world figured out.

If she were my child, I would give her choices and let her make the decisions about what to do. I would say things like, "What's going to work for you?" "I'll be interested to see what you are wearing--clothes that we picked out or your pajamas--when we leave for school."

If she pitches a fit, tell her very sweetly how badly you believe she must feel. Say things such as, "Yes, that is sad," or "Oh, NO..." or "You are probably right."

Once she sees that you mean exactly what you say, she will be happier because right now she is searching for a limit. As the parent, you must set the limit and hold it firmly where set.

The key thing to this is: TO LET HER TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR HER SMALL, HARMLESS DECISIONS NOW SO THAT WHEN SHE HAS BIG DECISIONS (such as sex, alcohol, drugs, driving) SHE WILL HAVE A LOT OF EXPERIENCE IN MAKING DECISIONS.

Best wishes to you and your family. You are on the way to a more miserable life for a short time, but a happier one in the long run. How exciting for you!

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she sounds like a brat that needs to be punished. that's the first thing. And secondly, most little girls think that the world is supposed to revolve around them! But you need to make it clear to her that it doesn't. And that she can't dress however she wants. Why is she dressing herself anyway?? When i was five, my mother bought my clothes, and picked them out for me. you need to develop some ground rules and stick to them.

just wondering, why did you refer to your son as "a great little boy", and then refer to your daughter as "then i have my daughter", it sounds a little like you are picking favorites. and if that is the case, that may be another reason that she acts that way, because she wants your attention.

This may be a self-fulfilling prophecy going on. You seem to be favoring your son.....she picks up on that and because she is jealous of him and the attention he gets she acts out. Discipline your children using the same rules and punishments and she won't be so out of control.

maybe but it sounds like she is spoiled put her in the corner and make her stay there for at lest 5 minutes when she throws her fits

you spoil her. This is your fault she is like this. Time to put your foot down and remind her who mummy is. Dont let her watch bad tv.