Marriage Problems?

You're in a marital rut. Try taking her out for a date night. Dinner and dancing...nice and slow. No groping!! Just be sweet and tender. She'll come around.

I would guess that it probably has to do with her weight gain. When girls look sexy they feel sexy, and vice versa. She probably isn't feeling very sexy with the added weight and it is affecting her libido. The only thing you could really do is either help her get back into shape, or just let her know how beautiful and attractive she is to you. A woman's sexuality begins in her mind. I know it must be frustrating for you, but maybe remembering that can help you be more patient with her and you can boost her ego by telling her how beautiful and attractive you think she is. If she feels wanted and desired, she will feel beautiful and loved -- those feelings equal "sex"! It wouldn't hurt to have a heart-to-heart talk wiht her too, about how being intimate with her is important to you and express that it's not so much the physical aspect, but because you yearn to be close to her, you find her so beautiful that she is absolutely irresistable. How can any woman deny a man that wants and needs her in this way so badly? I couldn't anyway.

Maybe she is just bored? If you've been doing the same thing for so long its bound to get boring eventually, go online and search for some new ideas/positions/toys etc. She could also just be tired, do you help her around the house? If you dont, then she might be resenting you for that. Why dont you try something romantic (roses, candle's, music) on a night you know she's free, she how she reacts. If this problem still persists, you should sit her down and talk to her about it. Maybe its something physical she's to embarrassed to tell you about. Maybe its just something she's to shy to ask you for. You should start by letting her know that you love her no matter what. Let her know that you miss the physical connection you once shared and want to know what you can do to make it better. Tell her that you are open to all suggestions and possibilities. Sometimes just hearing that your SO cares enough to even ask how to make things better might be just the thing she needs to remember what a great person she married!

im right there with you except its not as bad. We have sex about twice a week, so thats like 6 times a month. the one week of her period is a no no. but yea i know it sucks and sometimes think to yourself "now i know why my married friends cheat on there wives" im 31 shes 30 so it sucks. Yeah she gained some weight as well while i have maintained my weight and still try to remain attractive to her. Sometimes i feel we have sex cause she feels obligated. it sucks dude i feel your pain. its rough cause you love them and you want to be a good man but they just dont get it. the romancing stuff will work for awhile but they just dont care for pleasing there man once they have them on lock...ya know

good luck

we both need it

Be sweet and treat her like you did at the beginning. Let her know how desirable she is to you and spoil her a little. Sometimes though certain medicines like birth control or others have effects.It is normal for it to slow down but when you do, make it unforgetable and she will want to take time and have more interest.

communication is the key just because youre marry its dont mean youre dead maybe you need a marriage counseling so you can work thought this good luck

try doing something nice for her. tell her to put on something sexy and then take her eat out or dancing, tell her how pretty she looks and how much you use to enjoy your sex life.

you now know the true secret of marriage, welcome to the club