What Am I To Think Now?

Well, it looks like you are going to wait until he is properly divorced to begin with. Then I would suggest that you wait a little longer to be sure you are not a rebound relationship. It would be horrible to find out that he fell for you on the rebound after you two are married. Then I would suggest that you wait to be sure that you are both truly ready to be married. If you are still determined to get married and you both agree then go ahead with the plans. Don't worry about what your family and friends will think. First it isn't any of their business and second if you tell them your reasoning not only will they understand but they will respect you more for being cautious.

If I'm reading this correctly, you've planned the wedding for sometime in September.

If that's the case and he's telling you now that you two should wait a little longer, I'd say put the brakes on the whole thing. Now.

what is he saying? That he wants to be "single" longer than the three months before the wedding?

If so, let him be. He had no right to propose... and obviously is not ready to get married.

This kind of thing happens more than you might think. All you have to do is tell people (caterer, photog, etc) that the wedding will not take place in September. Period. You don't owe anyone an explanation. And if you're pushed to give one, you can say that you've heard that once you get married, your love life slows down-- and who wants that? ;)

Good luck to you. I know this is a difficult time.

What happens if the divorce gets prolonged after after June? Then what? You need to make sure he gets divorced 1st before making plans of getting married again! I would put some thought into this 1, do you really want to do this? How long until he is getting a divorce from you? Think this through! You are the one who knows him, so it is really up to you!

you have to wait until his divorce is finalized. So get married after June or July.

Sounds to me that your totally "brainless".

You listen to a married man, and you make a fool out of yourself for doing so.

Never, Never make wedding plans with a married person. Their intentions are to just keep you busy and thinking your happy.

I'd send a hand written invatation to his wife, then I'd in form all my family and friends that you have decided to become a nun.

I think you should continue to do what you have been doing for the past year - jump in the sack and get your brains?? screwed out by a married man.

Are you really that desperate and pathetic?

u should never have put faith in a married man. guess your just going to have to accept what he has said to u, he isn't ready to marry again so soon, u put your trust into a man u shouldn't have. he may be seeing someone else, if he cheated on her he will cheat on u. don't trust him anymore if he is going to do u like this, and change his mind.

Ooh... wait i would suggest for you to respect his decision considering he has to wait first for his divorce. Its the best way to look at it. Tell him that you would, but to stick through it after you waited for the divorce to be final.

what are doing with a guy that isn't even divorced from his last wife? Don't get married!!!!!!!!

Wait until his dicorce is final or if you cannot wait that long then move on with your life.