How can I handle sibling rivalry?

Kids will be kids. The things you are experiencing are normal. The one year old gets the most attention because it needs the most attention BUT the four year old doesn't know that. The four year old is taking it personally. Try to involve BOTH of the children in activities together. I know this will be difficult but try to give the four year old some extra attention in between chores and care of the one year old. When a family member or baby sitter is around and available, take the four year old out for "special trips". Hopefully this helps. Next visit to the pediatrician is a good time to bring this up with the doctor. He/she will be able to give you some good tips on how to curb the behavior.

It's normal. You might need to give the 4-year-old some one on one time so he/she still feels loved. This might reduce some of the resentment. Little kids don't understand when you try to explain that they are not a good person for being mean to someone. You control behavior through punishment and reward. You will reduce the resentment by giving some special attention. Stop scolding the kid!!! That will make it worse. The kid will start to hate you and will not respond to any parenting at all!

I have two older sisters. One is 7 yrs older then me and the other is 5yrs older then me. While gowning up i got along great with my older sister we did everything together but my other sister and i fought all the time. It was horrible, it got to the point were we couldn't be left alone with each other. By the time i was 12 and she was 17 we got along great. It was like we woke up one day and we were the best of friends. Now we are really close. Its like fighting all those years made us become closer.

So one day your kids will get along great. Sibling rivalry is not uncommon.

the more you try to stop the behaviour of the four yr old the more he feels you are siding with his younger brother.they judge everything with what they see,they dont understand anything unless we explain it to them in simple and short sentences.it is a natural reaction .....to lose all the attention he once enjoy when the younger bro was not yet born.maybe you can show his picture same age as your younger son and tell him what he can do and what he cannot at his age and why mama is always there with him during those times and that his brother needs the same attention he had .

As they grow older they will get better almost every child does the same thing ide try seperating them or talking to the 4 year old hes old enough to learn to controll his anger!

that what 1 year olds do. I have a 3 year old cousin and i spent a week with her when see was 1. Yeah, they do things like what you described.

As they grow older they will get better, but the truth is you cannot stop it only reduce the amount of it. It is human nature to want other's things. As we get older we understand the rules of society but your children are too young to understand.

Good Luck.

actaully. i have a friend who has a cousin who has 2 duaghter's that are exactly like that. what she does, is that she talks to her to get her to understand. and when she does good, she congratulates her. not bribes...

Give praise when he does somethign good. beat him with a belt when he does something bad.