Help for my teen son??

i have a 14yr old son that has adhd... and let me start by saying u need a meeting at his school and have a talk with ALL the teachers... if hes having a problem with one of the teachers then they need to move him or someone needs to teach that teacher how to deal with a child with adhd. i had the same problem with my son last yr. and come to find out he (my son) didnt care because that 1 teacher was making him look bad in front of everyone anyways. well i had a run in with the teacher. it was a ugly meeting and i told him what i thought of his teaching skills. well he was wrote up.. and this year my son is doing great. he has that teacher but instead of my son having i dont care attitude he has i will show u i can pass ur class cause even if u dont think i can i know i can and my parents know it too. sit down and talk (not yell) to ur son ask him what can be changed to better the problem. i bet he has an answer but just waitin to see who will help him... hes a teenager and has enough to deal with in life and im sure he would like it to be better. goodluck

Ok. First off talk to the teacher that seems to well be picking on him. I know if i was a parent an i seen this myself i would have talked to him right then an there in front of the whole class. It seems to me that this teacher likes to pick, so if he chooses to humiliate then as an adult i would do it back so he would know how it felt. As for his disrupitons he is in the 8th grade, what boy isnt in that grade level. Yes its terrible that he has ADHD, but my 2 little Cousins have the same problem, its just some people dont know how to deal with it. Try not taking things from him but spend more time with him as a family an try to show whats right an wrong in a positive manner. Good Luck. An i would really think of setting up a metting to talk to that teacher!!!!!

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I know that with my brother ( who has autism) his new school was the same way. Plus I have ADHD and know how hard it is to try to function normally. The best advice I can give you is to get a letter from a psychiatrist or counsel and show the school as proof that there is a reasonable explanation for his behavior. Most schools have alternative placement for students with learning disabilities, no matter how small or large. I don't believe your son deserves to get punished for his problem, becuase sometimes you either need to change the dosage of the medication or change the medication. Good luck

Does he have a guidance couns.? I'd want this school to "test" him - go today (or tomorrow) and say you do not feel his needs are being met. Sounds like he needs an Aide to keep him settled and make sure his "hearing" is being "written" down - or the "class rules" are being met with him so he doesn't act out.

Call his guidance couns. today and get things started.

If he tests for an aide he is right where he should be.

We moved from OH to PA in 5th grade for our son.

He's now 13 (middle school started in 5th) he went from the "best" to the "supposed" best here but it's not the same.

It's a hard time for kids - and for kids who have "needs".

I kind of feel your pain at the moment but similar difft. situations (I feel lost)!!!

We too take away things like TV, video things etc. (my son is failing and has an IQ of 144) he's never been in AP classes and we think he has ADD (not the hyper) but the I am so bored and tune you out...

Also some schools have organized teams to help keep him "straight" he may qualify for this and have people just "looking out" for him. Sadly the one bad egg of a teacher is going to just be there (we have one too).

feel free to e-mail me too - I also have two girls who are doing fine -

I know the boat you're in. And you have my sympathy. You hate to label your kids but, sounds to me as if you're going to have to see his guidance counselor about having him labeled as learning disabled. It sucks but, it means the teachers have to step up and take are of him. They will help you write out an educational plan and then they will be responsible for helping him follow it. Believe me, teachers do become much more sympathetic if you are involved and if they think lawyers could possibly get involved.

If he has dyslexia and ADHD, you should have no problem getting him set up with an IEP.

Obviously mainstreaming him in this new school hasn't been the right thing for him. I suggest you discuss his schooling with the doctors and see if you can find a school (or maybe even homeschool him) that will better suit his needs...Not all schools have the same policies about mainstreaming special needs kids. That was something you should have taken into consideration BEFORE you moved. It's kind of too late now.

Maybe you should try some counseling . Maybe he has some problems that hes not able to talk about and is acting out trying to get someone to notice.Because 14 is plenty old enough to know right from wrong way of acting. . I think there is defintly some thing more going on.

Just wondering why you've grounded him...

Is home-schooling a possibility? It would save time with having to deal with the school and he could probably have an easier time being taught at home, by someone he's comfortable with.

Ah, well that would be a good reason to ground him. I thought you meant you grounded him for having a difficult time. Apologies.

has the school done an iep if not request that they do i had to do that for my daughter who has the same problem what i found that works best for marrisa is to praise the good stuff that she does and try to pay no attention to the little stuff she does for attention good luck

WOW! I real empathize with you. My sister-in-law has a son who's light is on and no one is home...She had a similar problem and had to petition the school board 'many' times to get the school to accommodate her son to a special needs class...when I say 'many', I think that she met with them about 10-15 times before they saw it her way...

good luck!