Do you think it is appropriate for a ex-girl/boy friend to give you underwear for a birthday present?

You did nothing wroung. I would of did the same thing.

I can see where you are coming from... I mean if an ex of mine sent me panties It would feel wrong to me too. BUT... my point of view on women's panties and things are much different than men's boxers. Sometimes we just don't know what to get you guys. Boxers are just an obvious "gift" we could get you. Nothing sexual about it.

Plus you had mentioned you broke up because of the long distance... maybe its just a way for her to show you that she still thinks about you and misses you. No harm in that.

And if you both have made the decision to part because of the distance issue, even though you might still care for each other, it's perfectly normal to try and venture out with another possible "girlfriend/boyfriend". See where things go. Everyone has to be happy and you noth cant sit around missing each other all the time. You both can be friends and still care for each other.

Actually, I don't see anything wrong with you accepting, just with HER logic in sending them. It's unusual that she's willing to give you underwear that another girl might enjoy more than she does. That's usually a big "no,no" in the gift giving rules to ex's. HOWEVER, she DID send you some...did you need them? Think of what motivated her to send them. Plus, really, you lied. You would accept underwear from a friend, it's just awkward from a recently ex-girlfriend (that you obviously still have feelings for). At least she thought about you enough to send something, and if you broke up due to distance, maybe this is her way of showing she still feels close and comfortable enough with you to send that type of personal gift. Honestly, if I really cared about my ex, I too would be insulted if he got offended over a gift that I sent with pure intentions. It would make me feel like a part of that trust and comfort we had in one another was lost. I would think about why I'm really mad if I was you. Is it really the gift? I don't think so. I am confident that it had a lot more to do with the conversation that came with it. I don't think you're ready to hear about her with any other guy, AND based on her gift, I think she needs to hear you tell her that.

Good luck & Best of wishes, hope this helps!

A...Mr. Cool, I don't think you're getting it. I think the reason she sent you the boxers was 1) to be cute and 2) her way of saying without saying that she'd like to be back with you. She said she was going out with some girlfriends and some guys was her was of 'testing the waters' to see your reaction. She was 'hurt' because you didn't understand her subtle suggestion of getting back together.

I don't know if it is appropriate or not. Maybe that's her way of saying she still likes you. Maybe it was a joke. Maybe she just thought you needed some underwear~lol~ or maybe she didnt think it was a present to question.

Personally, I think you have the right idea. I don't think it's an appropriate gift from an ex.

This girl is fried in the head.

I would not like it if an ex sent me his panties at all!

I wouldn't send undies to an ex unless I was hoping to rekindle something.

i think that it is kinda strange that she got you boxers but you could have asked her why she sent you boxers.

Maybe she did it in a sneaky way so that she could find out if you still liked her or not.

I think that whatever it was she got her answer

i don believe and support the concept of ''ex-boyfriend'' and or '"ex-girl friend"..anyway..so i couldn't even bother to invite him/her...bf and gf are permenant ..why they become "ex"...