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What to do when you find that special someone, again.....?

So for years, I've tried to re-connect with an old friend/boyfriend who I was really close to. For years I've had no luck finding anything on him. Well last night I found his family's website and took a look. It seems as if he is now married with 2 stepkids. I posted a friendly message addressing his whole family and wishing everyone well. But heres the thing. I believe this person was my soul mate. Everyday since we lost contact 7 years ago I've thought of him. It wasnt either of our faults that we lost contact (we were young and our parents didnt want us together which brought up other issues) I really want to be in his life as a friend and if the time ever came, to be more than that. But for now I would settle for friends. Please help. I'm in a serious relationship with someone I know I dont want to be with and I cant help but to feel sad all the time about losing my lost love. What should I do? Should I try to directly contact him or not?

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  • 1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    u shouldnt have even wrote him. married men are off limits. im sorry but i believe married men shouldnt have female friends and same goes for married women with men. my husband and i have been married 5 yrs now and we have made a lot of sacrifes for eachother.he has even gave up watchin football because of the cheerleaders and raunchy commercials.well we dont even watch regular tv now too trashy, just rent movies and play video games.(how many men do u know would do that!!!!) im the only lady showin her stuff in my house, and i gave up dressin in tight short revealing clothes in public for him(and especially for God). and we have a wonderful marriage. we are still best friends! this is serious. now that they r married they are meant to be in the eyes of God, and even if you did get him from her it would never be a blessed union. i thought i had another soulmate before, trust me the right one will come along. God bless

  • ncgirl
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    One thing I have found is that you can never go back and find what you had before. You have both gone through a growth period and things have changed since then. Do you really want a married man that might percieve you as someone from the past looking to upset his life.

    I know I would feel this way if a long, lost boyfreind came looking for me.

    Source(s): me
  • ?
    Lv 4
    4 years ago

    ok. i'm not a girl, yet i understand the respond to this question. convey regret !! and advise it. once you get married you will replace right into a grasp of the words "i'm Sorry". via the time you're 50 and nevertheless married to a similar woman you married at 18, you would be a Grand grasp on the apology. you would be able to desire to even replace right into a international champion at apologizing. Now. once you're making your apology, you want ammunition. you will desire to take her And her friends or her mom and come out to dinner. for optimum result i want to advise crimson Lobster. No plant life. No goodies. you will desire to assert your apology to her in front of her and her friends and or mothers and dads. tell her Why you probably did what you probably did and upload that that's no excuse on your habit. Then teach her which you have corrected your habit and your errors. Getting her to have faith you returned will take a life time or 2. she will by no skill forget approximately what you probably did so do never do it returned. We adult men would desire to stay this variety. Get used to it.

  • 1 decade ago

    You posted the note let things alone if he is married you cannot mess this up for him and if he is not happily married he will contact you.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    dont do this to yourself. i know its hard. but you gotta move on. tell him you love him and wish to be JUST friends. dump that guy you are with. dont waste time. be social. you'll get over this in no time.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    he's married...sorry he's off limits now

  • 1 decade ago

    oooooooo

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