My straight friend wants to know why he gets hit on by men more than by women?

Perhaps he is sending out "gay vibes." Believe it or not, I'm not trying to sound like a smart-*** here. There is something to "gaydar" and while it's not 100% effective, we do become very keen at noticing little tell-tale signs. I think this is the result of having to seek each other out secretly sometimes in order to avoid harassment or worse. Sometimes these signs or signals are so slight we can't discern what it is about the person that sets off the little alarm, but it's most likely a combination of things. Once in a while a straight guy may have certain mannerisms or behavior or that certain je ne sais quoi that gives us a bad reading.

Tell your friend to try and not be offended. Take it as a compliment that while the attention isn't coming from the people he would like it to come from, he's doing something right! lol Back when I was young, thin and beautiful, I used to get attention from women and men both (though to be honest, I was pretty GAY -- hell, I still am, so it was more often from men) and I took both as a compliment (but only the men got anywhere with their flattery).

Hope this helps a little.

In my experience, which comes from having gay friends, gay men are much more aggressive than straight women. Even if they're gay, they are still men, and most of the time men make the first move. Add that to the fact that gays are in the vast minority, and you have a recipe for come ons.

As a straight woman I would be offend by any one who hit on me like that. I would consider him to be a jerk. I think a man could be just as offended. They know that the gay guy just wants to use him. Don't gay guys have any moral standards.

As a teacher I always found it offensive when the other students would call any student a ******. They usually harrassed the smaller guys who were more sensitive. Many men equate sensitive as a feminine characteriist so they zero in on these guys and can make their life hell.

Also mannish looking girls are at risk.

Perhaps he's rather feminine. Or perhaps he's wearing a red shirt? Wish I could help, but the only thing I could suggest for your friend to do is simply decline politely, without getting defensive. It might be that if he gets defensive, considering most local gay communities are rather small, word will spread fast and Friend of Dorothy might start 'hitting' on him more frequently because they know it bothers him.

The men asking out are confident in themselves and thats a good thing. Not all gay men are that way.

People may just be attracted to him, nothing more or less.

Beacause he's hanging out with gay guys, and guys are traditionally more assertive than women. Just look at who typically asks the other gender out on a date.

I'd have to agree with SD Terp. The gaydar's going off for a reason, and it's probably completely subconscious with your friend. If it were me, I'd be flattered that they found me attractive.

maybe he has a gay look, or he brings about an energy of gay to the gay community.

Dude..only four times in a year.? How sad. He must be way too skinny and average :)

who knows....I'm gay --I get hit on by women all the time...I just take it as a compliment and laugh it off..your friend should probably do the same.