What is wrong? My husband stays annoyed with me.?

ouch...saying that you are getting to be like his ex-wife was way harsh.

Apparently he has an idea of what his model of a wife should be and your not filling those expectations. I would just ask him point blank what he expects his wife to be. Marriage is about give and take for both sides, but if one is doing more taking than giving then problems will arise.

I can understand you want to make him happy, but you are only one person and you have your limits of what you can realistically accomplish.

I hope you can find a positive solution for your dilemma without having to resort to medication or any other type of drastic action.

I have come to the realization that a man over the age of 30 is set in his ways and by the time he is 35 he will never chang. I have been in the same situiation for 8 years, thinking that it will change, cause every time I talk about anything, he responds with a negetive reply everytime or he will cut off my conversation and make me forget my whole point and reverse it and make it into a argument that was never intended in the first place. All that we have in common is our 8 year old daughter. He sleeps in one room I sleep on the couch. When we are on good terms and that's about all the time now because I choose not to use my energy anymore in or around the baby I might give him a little sex. That's all that it is because the love is gone. We are just friends in the same house. I also am 11 years older than he is and he can't put nothing past me, cause I've done them before. Your husband will never change of being annoyed with you, because the Love is Gone. Nothing you can do will change this. I don't care what the other answers tell you until they go through what we are going threw right now they are and we be clueless. Talk to him about what is on his mind and I bet you he gets mad reverse the conversation into "What are you talking about?" and then here comes the arguing about something you need closure on. If he listens and not fuss and gives you a answer that touches your heart ,you'll know then exactly what to do.

Sounds like HE is stressed about something and is taking his frustrations out on you. He may not even realize he is doing this. Sit and have a heart to heart with him and try to figure out what is stressing him. Could be something at his work. Do you earn more than him? This makes some guys insecure. Is a family member sick or anything like that? You MUST communicate or this issue will never be resolved. Don't get yourself all worked up over it either. (Easier said than done, I know) It will be even worse if you BOTH are stressed to the max. Try to take it in stride a little while. You KNOW you aren't doing anything wrong. If he is such a jackass that he can't realize that you may not accomplish everything everyday after working 50 hrs. a week, he isn't worth the time of day. Ignore him, but try to find out what HIS problem is.

Sadly it does not sound good. The description you give suggests that you are working very long hours and at the same time he is not being supportive at home expectig you to keep up the housework and cooking. He appears to be responding in an emotionally abusive manner and is driving you to the point of clinical depression and maybe a breakdown idf this continues.

It sounds like with his abusive behaviour the realationship will fail as your attempts to communicate have been refused and if the lines of communication have been cut there is no way to heal the growing wounds. It sounds like relationship counselling would be beneficial but at the same time if your job will not even allow time for doctors appointments then it would be difficult to find time for that.

No offense but it seems like you're trying too hard to keep him happy. If he is a sweet man than he would understand that you may need help around the house, especially working all of those hours! He needs to be more understanding of your feelings and more patient and kind with his words. He seems, from what you've stated, that he's kind of selfish and it almost seems like he's looking for things to go wrong. Some people aren't happy without some type of conflict in their life...he has an ex-wife....maybe he is that way.

I would pay attention to your feelings and take care of yourself emotionally. You can't make him happy, you can only add to his happiness...if he isn't a happy person deep down, there is nothing you can do. Same goes for you. Take care of yourself before him. BUT keep the conversation open and try to stay calm while talking with him about things that are bothering you...maybe even write him a letter about it.

Hope things work out for you :)

Sounds like there is some financial pressure here, also. He should never compare you to his ex. Is he working also? Don't be bullied by this man. I am sorry you are going through this.

If this was me I would quit cooking, cleaning, and any other favors I do for him. If you have family this would be a little easier. Leave and go to friends or back home. Don't take cursing or being unappreciated. Maybe he has done something he is feeling guilty for, this can cause him to treat you like it's your fault. Maybe you are working too much. Ask him if he is cheating on you. Don't blame yourself for his problem. If his behavior is driving you to take anti-depressants, ..something is wrong with him. I would try to find out what it is.

I was in your exact spot with my ex husband. Nothing I did or said was right and everything was turned around on me. I would suggest some counseling if he will go along with it. My ex husband would not or I would have tried that route. There were many, many other issues in our relationship that lead to it's demise so please don't be discouraged and think that divorce is the only answer. Sometimes a trained professional can do wonders at getting us all to see things a bit more clearly. I suppose another option would be trying to have a real conversation with him about what is going on and how he is making you feel. He may not realize how hurtful his comments to you are.

If he refuses counseling then you must do what will make you happy. You can't walk around on a tightrope to avoid making him angry for the rest of your life. I know, I tried to do it.

I wish you the best of luck and hope that he will agree to the counseling.

It sounds more like your husband is not happy about something to do with himself. Has something changed either between the two of you, or maybe his work? Is it a necessity that you work 50 hours? Sometimes men think the are not doing their job if their wife needs to work...unfortunately no matter what it is men generally need to work it out on their own, if it continues try to speak to him when there is no prominent issue and let him know how he is making you feel, and if you need to see about counseling with or without him, the counselor may give you some options to help with stress so you won't have to choose between that and your job. Good luck!

Well, that sounds like the same way my ex g/f was acting before we broke up. She was interested in a drunk-pothead... I can only see one thing you can do. Have him sit down with you and have a serious talk about your relationship. At this point its best to not have any feeling unsaid. If one or both of you have a problem with the other its best to say it and resolve it. Guilt and/or suspicion can always make someone feel uncomfortable or unwelcome around someone else.

I really hope that everything works out for ya, i know what its like to have my heart torn out of my chest. Its not the most pleasant feeling in the world.

I know i am young but i know all about this because it has gone on before with my older sister... Its just a phase that happens , it lasts for a while and it brings it almost to the breaking point until he finally relaxes or what happed in my case what happened was that she couldn't take it anymore and they had a sit down and showed that no one was the cause of anything (even though its all him) tell him how you feel and keep everything calm toned... no one flips out and just ask whats going on and if you can help in anyway. Tell him that you love him but this just isn't working out and something needs to be changed...

It helped both of my sisters and thier husbands. If all else fails then just wait it out. :( sorry