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Controlling Husband and not letting me have the car keys, what to do?

My husbands dad was letting us use his Jeep (he buys a new car ever 3yrs so he won't even be using this one) because our son is in a wheel chair and needed the room. Well I was planning a vacation to NC with my kids and now my father in law said we can't use the Jeep. I don't talk to my in-laws, since my husband was arrested last year for trashing the house. They blame me for everything. My husband gets angered very easily and acts like a 2 year old child. Now I am stuck here with no car, money, nothing and my husband saying he is going to shut off everything in the house. My family doesn't have money, so they can't help me out. I am just lost and I don't believe I am the bad one here. I work part-time and spend most of my time taking care of my son who needs lots and lots of care.

Update:

This is for lilee2k

I just wanted to add that I can't work a full-time job because my son is disabled and most of my time is either taking him to Doctor visit or he is in the Hospital. For people that have healthy kids, you would never understand where I come from. I am very lucky because my son is still alive and instead of having the State pay $15 a hour for some nurse to come and take care of him, I stay home and take care of him. Since he is severly disable he gets state Ins. and it doesn't go by your income. I never smoked, drank or was even around anyone that did when I was pregnant, if your thinking she some loser. Four years ago between me and my husband we made $60,000 it wasn't bad. My husband is jerk I know

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    From what I've seen things will get worse from there. have professional help intervene, like a councilor.

    I would just get out of that situation.....life is too short.

  • 1 decade ago

    He is not a controlling husband. He is an abusive husband. Any man that would have the power/water turned off in a house w/a disabled child is sick! His father is the same way, which is where your husband got this behavior. You need to get yourself and your children out NOW!!! Call the health department, FIA , a shelter or any other agency for that matter, they can all give you numbers to help you!

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    You say your husband was arrested last year, why haven't you done anything to help yourself out? It sounds like your in laws were helping you out for the last year by letting you use the jeep. Also, if you have no money why are you going on vacation? You just want sympathy. Quit playing the victim, get a job and support yourself.

  • 1 decade ago

    im sure u love ur husband but u dont need that type of BS......as far as his parents blaming you for everything its just an easy way out......i bet they think their son is "perfect". call your mom and dad and see if they can take a ride out to ur house to help you out.....worse case seneiro move out, sell the house, give ur hubby a portion of the money(if u dont you will be in court, he is entitled to half).....and just wash ur hands....he already destroyed ur house next will be you...im not saying hes an abuser or that he will ever hit you....... there is a chance......you are going though too much by urself.......even though ur parents dont have money doesnt mean they wont be there for you.....

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    You sound like you need some serious help. There are programs out there that can help you. Look into something because things will get worse unless you do something for yourself.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    hey you really need some serious help otherwise he will make your life and your son's life miserable...........

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