Please help me figure this one out? crazy man?

Well, hindsight is 20/20 -- so you can now see why you should never have gone to bed with him.

You didn't have this baby together -- he was in jail. You had a baby that he donated sperm for. If I were you, I would move and leave no forwarding address. When you were pregnant, he choked you. Are you going to wait until he kills you? or your child? He is a violent man, a liar, a cheat and a thief -- do you consider this a good role model for your child? You want him in your life? In your child's life?

You have a child. You are responsible for her life -- the things she learns, the person she becomes. Please try to find more positive influences for her!

well at first i thought you were saying you just found out you're preggo, but you ended saying you already had the baby.

First thing, i would really urge you to place the child with a family who will offer her/him a life of stability and good role models. I offer this reccomendation going on what little info i have of you. But if everything i think is correct, then you should consider it. -You are very young? with a man who really should never have a child? and this man will inevitably be in your life forever because of the baby. And your biggest hope for your baby will probably be that she/he does not turn out like daddy. With an adoptive family of your choosing, hopes will be much bigger for the child. Their hopes will probably be that he/she plays major league soccer, or becomes a doctor. Look at Nicole Richie. She was a child whose birth mother did her one helluva favor!

If you cannot part with your baby, then you need to stay away from this man, and to do that you must move out of state probably. If you can't do that, then you are setting up your child for a rough childhood.

Seek help and get out of there!

I agree... what a mess!!!!!

I was in a very similar situation a few months ago ( minus the prison time)

Instead, my boyfriend tried to kill himself when I told him I was keeping the baby!

He's fine, but I left him, and lost the baby at 10 1/2 weeks..

I almost wish we could switch places. Just be thankful you have your wonderful little one.

As far as him being a part of the baby's life.... that ones on you.

Personally.... I would try to make sure he was court ordered to take every anger management class available. '

if he is willing to go through all that... he MIGHT be worthy of supervised visitation.

good luck and god bless!

This is the reason not to have sex when you first meet someone.

Clearly it took you only one month to figure that stuff out, that month spent with your pants on would have saved you much aggravation.

You have the baby and I'm sure she is beautiful and the light of your life, mine are. Do you want to do everything in your power to protect this child?

Protect her from a man who will choke a woman when he is frustrated?

Protect her from a man who feels he is above the law and immune from standard rules of behavior?

Protect her from a dangerous and thoughtless manipulator?

By all means, get the law on your side to protect her from this man. As a baby she doesn't know him from a hole in the wall, she has no need to spend time with him. As she gets older and wants to know who he is you might go for supervised visits, where you and she are protected from his temper.

I say talk to a government official of some sort (cop, lawyer, etc.) who would know the ins and outs of a situation like this.

Seeing that you probably want the child to know her father, you should let him see her. But to be on the safe side, he should be supervised when visiting the two of you. Until you know that he is changed in his attitude and apparent anger problem, I don't suggest you be alone with him at any given time.

And don't forget to pray about it!

Hope all works out for you.

The question is whether you trust him (really really trust him) with the baby (forget for a moment what's going on between you and him). If he wants to honestly get sometime with the baby, you can give it to him. But not too much.

What is happening between you two is important (I would ask you to keep him at whatever distance you want to keep him). But you could still give him his little time with the baby, if he deserves it, wants it and won't abuse it.

You can't depend on the police to protect you. A ppo is worthless. You have to protect yourself. I would let him see the child if he wants but never, never be alone with him. Have friends or family around.

I would not allow him back in your life.Wait til he gets a lawyer for his visitation.That way you can have it in writing when he can be around you.He choked you and could have killed you.Stay safe and make sure the baby is safe also.He may have a real grudge against you for taking his freedom away from him.Be careful.Get the ppo.NOW..

It sounds like he's put you through a lot of crap.

Men don't change easily and most never change at all.

Do you want him to put your child through things like he's put you through?

My advice would be to stay away from him and keep him away from your baby.

If he does change, THEN maybe let him see the kid.

If not... he doesn't deserve either of you.

Oh, and if you want more advice, stop dating that kind of guy...

If women didn't date jerks, less men would be jerks.

It doesn't sound like you have any kind of emotional committment to him, nor him to you so I would suggest you see an attorney and try to decide what if any legal rights this man has to be in touch with you and your child. There is no winner in this game but you need to look at what is going to be best for your child.