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For stay home moms or dads? How can one person take care of everyone?
Ok i am 24 and i am expecting my first child.. my husband make good money but he has to pay for rent, car, gas, bills.. load, send money to his parents(most of it) I have quit my job last year when i had expecting but i had miscarriage when i told them the day before i wanted to quit.. and had my miscarriage the next day..( my job was really stress ful and there was no help and i was standing a lot and i think i was over doing myself.. had do my own project myself (retail).. and i had do research myself sometime.. and it got me really tired and sleepy and do not wanted to cook dinner after work because i just wanted to sleep when i get home..
I kind of had plan for and i told my husband that when i preganant i would stay home for three year until my baby is ready for daycare. and after that i would find job.. but for me it hard to find job if i have two year degree..and i just start out my career and had to stop to take care of my child.
My husband is india and i am chinese.. He mom was homemaker( guess it mean housewife) and he dad was more working a lot.
my parents works when i was born.. and they never did stop working..
i know we need to saving money but it kind of hard when just one person is working and support extra person.. It not like i have not try to look for job.... It just kind of hard...and my husband wanted me to be careful with this prego.. and hope nothing is going to happen...
we send money because we wanted too and that we have to pay for loan... We just wanted to take care of them....because they took care of us when he was growing up...
I have told my husband about my plan.. about when i have baby i would wait until my child is three and in childcare.. and that when i go find job.. but i know i may wanted more then one kid... one kid is kind of lonely.. and they get more spoiled easy...(because they the only one) I was thinking about 3 kids and maybe adopt but have not talk to myhusband about adopt.. I always wanted adopt kids when i was kid
7 Answers
- 1 decade agoFavorite Answer
First off, take care of yourself. Then it is possible to handle the rest of what life has to offer you. I wonder why your husband HAS to send most of the money to his parents. Are you repaying a loan or is this a thing he thinks he has to do?
You really need to talk with your husband about your finances and your goals. When the two of you are on the same page with your plans, things will work out much better. If possible, join a parenting group and keep in touch with other adults. This is something that won't cost you a dime and help you keep your sanity.
- 1 decade ago
You don't have to do everything at once. Get dinner ready to make before hand so you have time to take a nap. Clean the house at your own pace. When your tired, lay down. Not everything has to be done all at the same time. Just go at your own pace or even set a schedule for youself. If your worried about things finacially then you can start doing something from home...theres all kinds of stuff out there...just research it...Congrats and good luck!
- 1 decade ago
I am a single mum of two, with each pregnancy I worried, whether yr in a happy relationship or on yr own it is scary, my advise is, keep calm, enjoy yr time and most of all have faith in yr partner, there will be hard days but as long as you both stick together and love yr child it all works out somehow. Parents learn to go with out so there baby won't, in time you'll look back and relise you had nothing to fear, and lol after being at home all day with a toddler you won't think your job was so stessful, they might be small but they are hard work and so worth the sleepless nights, take each day as it comes and when yr down just look at your beautiful baby, because in comparison learning to budget and to go with out is the easiest thing to learn in the world. Congratulations.
Source(s): my own experiance - 1 decade ago
I'm 28 and i have 4 kids. I worked full time with my 2 older ones. now that i have 2 babies i decided to stay home. Yes it can be hard financially. but I'm so glad I'm at home and i won't miss things like i did with my 2 older ones. if you can do it financially i would stay home. And just tell your hubby how you feel.
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- 1 decade ago
i am a housewife with a 10 month old and 8 months pregnant my fiancee doesnt want me working!! he rather me stay home and take care of the baby and the house!! its better because i dont like leaving my baby with anyone!!
- 1 decade ago
You do what you have to do. You just don't have a lot of extra money to buy fancy things, and you won't have a lot of time to yourself, but if you want it to work, it will.
- lisaanndubayLv 41 decade ago
i'm 22 a stay at home mom of 2 girls and pregnant with twins. i do everything. its not that hard.
