Family businesses non family employees vs family employees.?

Intersting question. I don't own a business and this seems like a very personal issue, simple answer - it really depends on what's going on in the heads of the boss, the family member employee and the non family member newbie. But I can give why I think it would happen, if I was the boss. the first three have to do with a newbie versus a oldbie instead of the family verus the non family part (seems - but once again, i may be wrong)

1. may be the newbie has to be trained to do the job.

2. newbies are high maintenace to a boss - when i was a manager, the newbies would make me change my mind often because i would think they can do something but they will come back and say the can't, i give something else - sometimes they give newer ideas because they have different experience. an old employee usually has the rythm figured out and things work like clock work.

3. there are two kinds of bosses and employees. there are bosses who thing "crappy work" that make people unhappy to be done, could be given the old employees, because they understand have built the loyalty - the newbie gets to have some good time, that is more useful in learning stuff than doing the mundane things. that said, yes, there are the other kind bosses who do the reverse.

4. may be because the newbie was hired for and has better qualifications, and are usually more motivated to work (otherwise they'll get fired). a family member gets to keep the job whether they are very qualified or not and they usually don't get fired.

that said - the boss might think he has to be nice to keep a non family employee to keep him motivated in the job but might assume the family member employee to be more loyal (feeling a sense of belongingness to the business, because they are family) and that might affect all of what I said above.

I have some experience with being the boss as I've owned my own family business for nearly 17 years now and have dealt with all kinds of situations.... So, here's my best shot at answering your questions:

1) It could be that the new employee actually has more qualifications or seems to be more suited for that particular job. Sometimes the boss can easily make mistakes, but also if I felt that the family member was more needed where they were, I wouldn't give them another job as that may be the only way I could make things work even if they would be better at the position, I didn't always have the ability to move them and perhaps felt that they would "understand", since they were family.

2) This particular question is hard as I would have to know more about the situations that came up... maybe I might feel that their recommendation was viable and that it would work out well if I went with what they suggested. This would also depend on the kind of leadership that is running the business... maybe they're not good at breaking up responsibilities to get things done and are swayed easily.

3) I might feel that the new person would quit if I started asking them to do such tasks too soon on the job or maybe I had the new person already tied up in a project so felt it would be okay to give it to the 4 year in employee.

4) Sometimes their skills are the factor versus how long someone has been on the job. It could be they are taking you for granted because you've been there so long or that they just simply feel the non-family employee has a better aptitude for the better position. I have had to deal many times with my family feeling I wasn't fair in the choices I made, but I made them based on what was best for business, not because they were family. Working with family has caused me many problems over the years so what they saying about family and business being mixed creating problems is almost always true, no matter how good the personal relationships are with those people.

Try not to let business decisions affect your personal family relationships... most of the time, there is more to the story than what your current feelings or knowledge will let you see. Try to understand that they are probably only doing what they feel is best and did not mean to hurt you in the process. Also, you might want to sit down and discuss with care your feelings and just let them try to explain why things are the way that they are. This could really clear the air if you don't allow yourself to be frustrated in the process. Try to be open to what they are saying in response to your concerns. I wish you the best going through this matter and I hope it all works out for you. ~Angela

Quality of work put out.

Skills/qualifications versus time put in.

Reliability

Trust

Any of the above can play a part in the why in your particular situation. Have you and your family member had problems before the newbie arrived? Do they want you to quit? Are they simply training the newbie? I think the best way to find out where you stand in the family business is ask. Ask in a way that is not defensive but inquisitive. Find out what you need to do to obtain more responsibility. This is something anyone would do on any job. I guess the one assumption that can be made, is the guarantee does not come because you are family.

for sure your father and uncle do not concider your hubby to be an entire area of the family organisation. tell your hubby to strengthen a set, then locate suited employment outdoors the family. the two considered one of you will experience greater helpful approximately yourselves, alongside with exhibiting your father and uncle which you will stand on your very own. I assure you that they would be conscious and get exhilaration from your skill to function outdoors the realm of the family. Then they are going to be greater mushy in sharing the family organisation. additionally, forget approximately correct to the non-family workers, they're basically employed to assist strengthen the family, whilst that's not the case they are going to be terminated besides.

When it comes to working for family...its so complicated. I've worked for my mother in law for about 3 months and now we don't speak. I've worked for my mom and we get along just great. I think, in my situation, its because she felt like I was "steeling" her baby boy...she just kept it to herself for a long time until I got pregnant and that was the last straw...anyway, its a hard situation and I would advise avoiding it at all costs!!!

Bottom line, businesss is busines, the one that can deliver is the one that gets the recognition.

sorry i would not have family working for me, to much crap, and feelings getting hurt