How do i get my daughter to speak to me again, have not seen her for over 3 years and do miss her very much?

Be the bigger person by putting aside the issue that separated yens in the first place and call her or go see her. Life is too short and nothing is that terrible to come between family members...especially a mother and child. Both of you are acting like children instead of mature adults. Bite your tongue, swallow your pride and make the call.

I'm hoping you didn't do anything really bad to her, because if you did, then go crawl away and leave the rest of us alone. But, if you didn't and this is the result of a misunderstanding, then maybe you should start by writing her. It's much, much easier to put what you want to say in writing than in person. You have the time to get out what you really want her to know. The other good thing about writing it is that you can't get flustered while talking and say something really stupid. You know, those phrases that jump out of your mouth that you wish you could pull back in before anyone hears them. Good luck with your daughter.

Nobody can help unless you give enough info to understand what the problem is. Have you been on the Space Suttle for that time? Incarcerated? Are you a spy, undercover in Tibet? Did you sexually abuse her at 9 years old? Did you murder her Mom? Did you abandon her and your family for years, and then decide that since they've grown up, you can just be a family again, and she'd forget you didn't care enough to support her? You don't say- so we can't help.

I dont know what happened but you can always write her a letter and make sure its from the heart.Express to her how much you miss her etc.She may have to deal with this on her own and in her own way.I know 3 years feels like a lifetime but maybe she is afraid to make the first move.

Call her. Ask her how she is doing. And, most important, don't bring up the past. Even to apologize. (Unless she expects one.)

Re-hashing all the old junk will only bog you down in an emotional quagmire, and more than likely, bring back old feelings.

Start anew. Even is she refuses to speak to you, well, at least you tried.

You did not give her age, but if you have not seen her, you have left her with many mixed impressions, she has been abandoned by her father, when you left what you had with her, you took something from her. When my father left, the impression ruled my life in a bad way. he left only a trail to follow. most of my life had gone through some really dangerous paths, just to find him standing there in his old age ready to be cared for. he walked away from life's difficult ies. he ran most of the time, he ran so hard and far away, he found himself right back where he started from, only we children were not the same, we grew to know him by a different name. The pain of a runaway parent is a great pain for a child to bear. they always run back home. Funny how time grows. and children grow with it. parents who run away from their children . you will return some day. you will search for your child the same as they searched for you. When you leave them, give them Jesus. a name like that, is full of promise. a father . because most parents run away. Jesus came to stay.

I haven't seen or spoken to my dad in 3 years, basically because he is a jerk.

First of all, find out why she isn't talking to you, then do your best to fix whatever you did wrong. Good luck.

The squeaky wheel gets the grease ; )

However, if she's being disrespectful to you due to her choice in peers ya might want to consider not dealing with this backwards.

Gee, that's funny. I haven't spoken to my dad in over 9 years. I would say call her or write her a letter to see if she responds. Unfortunatley, no one responded to me. Good luck to you though.

You dont say why this situation has come about? If your daughter has a family of her own, or how far away from you she lives! Please give more information, and then perhaps I can offer some sort of help please