if ur husband wants u to work but complains about ur hours u keep on shift work and complains about kids a lot

Okay, I have lived this situation before. The (immature) man won't be happy if you stay home either. I don't think you can satisfy a person like this so you do what YOU want to do or have to do to make it.

If your husband complains about the kids and wants you to work, then he's not a real man. A real man would allow you to stay home with the children and raise them. If the money is tight, he should get a better job or take on a second one, this way there's not a complaint about not being able to pay for things.

While he may think this is absurd, you need to properly take care of him and care for him.

A book that I can suggest is:

The PROPER CARE AND FEEDING OF MARRIAGE

by Dr. Laura.

IF your husband wants the luxury of a stay-at-home wife, perhaps instead of complaining and giving you grief, you could offer him the choice of getting another full time job...that will occupy him for about 18 hours per day..he won't have time to complain. You can then stay at home so he has no gripes. Funny, no matter what we do, something is always wrong in the other's mind, isn't it? Good luck

If you have children you should be home with them unless they're school age and you can work part time until they get off of school. That't the Mom's job.

Let it be your husband's job to pay the mortgage and take care of his family. That's what men do best.

Stick to your guns and do what you have to do to keep the roof over your family, hubby is just going to have to adjust.

Hey, unless he can pay the bills by himself then he needs to quit b*tching!