Do you not know the key to happiness people?

I agree!! but am confused coz not too long ago you wanted out of a marriage, so what happened to communication then?

my partner and i talk about it all, good, bad and the ugly.

That's crap. And mostly because most people think "talking" is communication. 90% of all communication is non-verbal. Sharing, empathy, appreciating what you have and the small things in life are among the many keys in a relationship.

I could add integrity (you are who you say you are, you do not act or deceive, you are not confused all the time, you are basically honest, etc), flexibility (able to compromise), self-control (no compulsions like gambling, drugs, etc. You take care of things, and you are a "together" person. Confidence: you are not mired down by self-doubt and insecurity. And finally, Attitude: you have a generally positive outlook on life in general.).

Finally, I'd like to add a quote from Oscar Wilde that is apt here: "I'm not young enough to know everything".

A little less arrogance might keep you from digging a hole.

Sometimes, there may be divorce when someone speaks truth!

I think for happiness it is important that there is minimum expectation from the other side so that every good thing comes like a gift.

Another thing important is that there should always be an element of surprise. It will add spice to life. Without it the life and relationship will be routine and boring.

Two things come to mind:

1. you sound like a vastly experienced teen

2. Do you know what the word "oversimplification" means?

Like someone else said, you can't be all open and bluntly honest and frank. Do you mean to tell me you wouldn't get upset if you were told something you didn't want to hear? I've yet to meet a woman like that!!! And the "money is paper" thing..... just what color IS the sky in your world, anyway?

Communication is only one key part of a good relationship. It is very important but only one piece of the puzzle. Relationships take work on both sides and committment. That's why most relationships fall apart, because one party usually won't put in the effort and thinks the grass is greener on the other side. So they end up relationship hopping taking the same problems into other relationships.

You need to add making sure that you take the time to know who the person is before marrying them and not having unrealistic expectations of what marriage is.

The key to happiness in a relationship is:

Great communication

Common interests

Same values and morals

Great sex

I agree with you about laying in bed for a hour but i will do all the talking because she will not be able to with a full mouth. She likes to eat cheetos's in bed

There is no greater love that that of the Lord. True happiness only comes when you seek first His kingdom in your lives, and include Him in all you do. Do that and you will not fight or argue about much of anything because you will be focused on what is really important.

This is terrific advice! May i add one thing though. Keeping God in the middle of your love is the one thing that is more important than communication. A marriage that has God in the middle can withstand anything.

Wonderful advice... but how do you communicate with someone who refuses to communicate with you?