Someone 45-44 yrs old that has been married answer this survey about dating for my project?

I am 44 and I'll be 45 in August, so I guess I fit right into your desired demographic.

1.How did u meet the person u eventually married? I was introduced to her by her sister's husband (her brother in law). He was my platoon sergeant.

2.At what age did u meet? I was 21 and she was 19.

3.Who typically initiated dates?-he or she? Who paid? I typically both initiated them and paid for them. We may have gone dutch once in awhile.

4.How did u prepare for dates? Were the preperations extensive or minimal? Did u get dressed up or go casual? If casual, as casual as today? I typically dressed casually, but not as casually as today. I wanted to make a good impression, but I didn't go to great lengths.

5.Were u chaperoned in any way? if so who chaperoned? No.

6.How important were automobiles to dating? Very! We didn't live very close to each other. She lived, at first, with her sister on the military base, but I lived in an apartment in the city nearby. Without a car, I couldn't have dated her.

7.What did u do on dates?(things you did alone or with other couples?) Usually, we went to a movie or out to eat.

8.What was the engagement like? Was it formally announced in the newspapers? Was a party given to celebrate the engagement? I privately asked her to marry me and she said yes (eventually). No formal announcement and no party.

9.Did he or u ask the father for permission to marry? Were both sets of parents informed before the wedding? She was estranged from her father, so I did not ask permission. Yes, her mother and my parents were informed.

10.How long did u date before u were married? At what ages did you marry? We dated about a year and a half. She was 21 by then, and I was 23, nearly 24.

11.What was the wedding like? Was there a civil or religious ceremony? Was there a reception afterwards? If so, how elaborate was it-how many guests? what food n drinks? We got married by a preacher in a minimalist ceremony in the back yard of the house where we came to be living. There was a very small party that we called a reception, but I don't remember what we served. Nothing major, that's for sure!

12. Go on a honeymoon? We went to Disney World and Epcot for our honeymoon, stopping along the way to visit our respective parents who had not previously met our spouses.

1.How did u meet the person u eventually married? High School, dated regularly soon after Graduation.

2.At what age did u meet? 17 or 18 yrs.

3.Who typically initiated dates?-he or she? Who paid? I, He.

4.How did u prepare for dates? Informal nothing special

a) Were the preparations extensive or minimal? Minimal

b) Did u get dressed up or go casual? Most of the times casual

c) If casual, as casual as today? No casual as in nothing fancy or revealing. Jeans and a polo shirt or t-shirt.

5.Were u chaperoned in any way? No, but family functions were the ritual of the day.

If so who chaperoned? Note: family outings.

6.How important were automobiles to dating? Not important, city kid. Subways and buses

7.What did u do on dates? (Things you did alone or with other couples?) Movies and family outings.

8.What was the engagement like? Formal, asked parents for hand.

a) Was it formally announced in the newspapers? Local paper

b) Was a party given to celebrate the engagement? Surprise party given, both sets of family was invited to the engagement party (girlfriend suspected and prepared)

9. Did he or u ask the father for permission to marry? Yes

a) Were both sets of parents informed before the wedding? Yes

10. How long did u date before u were married? 2 years, engagement after 1 year dating.

Note: if things didn’t work out after 3 months, we know it was time to move on.

At what ages did you marry? Both 20 years old.

11.What was the wedding like? Simple and inexpensive.

a) Was there a civil or religious ceremony? Religious.

b) Was there a reception afterwards? Yes, informal hall everybody (including young kids came).

c) If so, how elaborate was it-how many guests? 300+

what food n drinks? Buffet style.

12. Go on a honeymoon? Yes, traveled Europe for two weeks. Got the family blessing and support.

1) HS sweetheart

2) 17/16

3) I did, he, I paid.

4) Varied on the date, casual to outdoor events or movies, dress to plays or formal gatherings. Casual = collared shirt, clean jeans (never riped dirty clothing, even "work dates" would start clean (community projects)).

5) No, but each set of parents would ask where we were going, who we would be with, when to expect us back, and check in if you can).

6) Always had access.

7) Depended on what type of date it was. Movies and dinner, day at the lake, hike in the woods, dinner theater. Would almost always end with intamacy, usually petting and kissing throughout the date.

8) Announced but no party. We were saving money during college.

9) Parents knew (dated a long time), not asked, but were informed the same night as asked.

10) 5 years dating (finished college, she finished after marriage) 22/21

11) Religious, 60 family and friends BBQ (causal, less than $3000 spent (not counting rings and dress)), we entertained by cooking for everyone (just our way) beer, wine, champaine.

12) Drove down through NewOrleans and then over to Pensacola. A Week.

1. His ex-wife and I were friends and she introduced us.

2. I was 34 - he was 38.

3.We often had conflicting schedules - so we both did (Hey are you free tomorrow night, etc) Most of the time he paid (because he had more than I did - but occasionally I would)

4. Most of the dates were casual - we lived in Colorado and a lot of the dates were hiking, biking, fishing, boating, etc in the mountains.

5. Ocassionaly my children would come along - so I guess we were "charperoned"

6.very important

7.Other than the things mentioned above - dinner, theatre,

concerts, clubs.

8.Engagement very low key - only announced to family and friends.

9. No and yes

10. almost 2 yrs - 36 and 40

11. low key, civil, dinner reception after - 25 people

12. spent a few days in Cancun - married shortly before Christmas - so came back to spend with families

1)playing pool,2)i was 29 he 22,3)i gave him my #we talked a couple times,he pai,4)minimal and casual,5)no to old,6)important it was not in walking distance,7)went to concerts and dinners also hung out,8)no newspaper or party,9)yes he did ask permission and yes both sets of parents were informed,10)6 months,22 and 29,11)it was in his families church ,small group of family and friends,dinner only followed after,it was @30 people,basics..chicken,musticholli..no alcohol,12)we went up north to my parents cottege after some friends took us to the bar for a drink..the drive was about 3 hrs to get there, where we went on to another bar me and my still husband of 16 yrs

A 44yr previous married guy isn't allowed to partake in polite verbal replace with out the implied consent of his spouse....take this from a 44yr previous divorced guy who says what ever the fu?k he needs.