What is your opinion am I being overly emotional?

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I have been dating this man about 1 1/2 yrs. He doesn't want  any more kids. He's 52 and has a 10 and 19 yrs old from previous marriage. I am 40 and have 3 from previous relationship. We use protection and every now and then it may slip off during sex. He totally flips I  tell him it will be ok  and he starts saying things like well you'd better not get pregnant. What? Excuse me. I think if I did I didn't get that way by myself.I have my tubes tied so there's no chance of that but he doesn't know that piece of info.So you see I am confident when it comes to not getting pregnant. My issue is should I really stay with a man who acts so livid when it comes to having a baby. We use protection like I said but if it happens it would be meant to be don't you think. I do respect the fact that he wishes not to have more kids but in the same breathe why fault me and rant and rave if it happens and we did all we could to prevent it.

Krostina · Accepted Answer

Oh my goodness! I just had this conversation with my friend! I think I came to the conclusion, that if he would be so "offended" if I got pregnant -he isn't worth it. What would happen IF you did get pregnant, even if you're sure you can't. It's the principle! Is he gonna step up and be a man? This conundrum will follow through into every aspect of your relationship.

jam_psb · Answer

Its tough to say.  I am kind of shocked that you are not honest with him and let him know your tubes are tied.

Anyway, if you knew from the start that he did not want children and you pursed the relationship anyway then you really cant get mad.  I do see your point, he should not be so aggressive about it, but he is probably really serious when he says he does not want kids.

I would tell him that nothing is really 100% sure proof, and if he is that positive that he never wants children again he should get himself a vasectomy.

Cindy W · Answer

At 52, his reaction is very immature.  Good thing you have been surgically neutered!  Be careful about your future with this big baby - with or without a family.  At least he is being VERY honest in saying he doesn't want a child.  Only way to be certain is to keep his pants zipped.

gouldgirl2002 · Answer

Should you stay with a man who gets livid at you for any reason?  Should you stay with someone who rants & raves?  We women DO NOT HAVE TO PUT UP WITH this crazy anger.  Life's too short.

♥RaCheL♥ · Answer

I really don't understand why your keeping information from him that is so important.  If you just tell him you had it would stop this craziness, not only that sex would be so much better without using unnesesary protection.  Put your mind to rest and tell him plzzzzzzzzzzzzzz.

smashcruiserarc · Answer

No way.  And don't let anyone tell you otherwise.  Emotions don't have an off switch, they're just there.

I think maybe he's the one going way overboard here.

Anonymous · Answer

Tell him your tubes are tied. It will save a lot of heart ache.

Firefly · Answer

Hes not being fair. he sounds like a jerk

JD · Answer

if he doesn't want kids tell him to get a vasectomy!!!

matt · Answer

yea he sounds like a dick. need to lose him.

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