Should I be upset with my husband if he is getting in touch with old girlfriends?

Well, as a guy, I would say you have every right to be upset. Don't pay any attention to these other women that are telling you not to over-react, or not to read too much into it. They're sadly naive.

You have every right to be upset. He is your husband, not anyone else's. Have you asked him why he feels the need to get in touch with these old girlfriends? Also how far back do they go, months, years, etc? If you have been married for 10 years or so does your husband realize that these other women may be married also and not want to be contacted? If they are single and older, does your husband realize that there is a reason these women are still single at an older age? Also he might want to understand that people change over time in more ways than one. I would find out why first and deal with that issue without a fight and go from there. He might just have been really good friends with someone he wants to just say hi to. Also, is your husband saved? To look at a woman and lust is sin.

I had a similar situation over a year ago. I was on classmates and noticed the name of a guy I use to like at age13, in 1980. He was 2 years older. Well, I sent an email as I did to many old friends with just a hello, how are you. Anyway, this guy wrote back and I found out he was living in Seattle, Washington. Anyway, it was close to summer and I knew I had to go there to get my son and daughter. I told this guy that me and a friend (another woman) were coming to Washington. He wanted to get together with us because we all were friends since 1980. Well, me and my friend went to Washington and met him. He seemed ok as a friend until we all decided to have dinner the next night. Me and my friend and the friend I stayed with ended up paying for our meals plus his. He was very cheap and had terrible table manners. We drove all that way from Montana and he couldn't even behave at the dinner table and he passed the check to two women to even pay for his dinner which by the way was not cheap. Anyway, this is what I mean about how people can change. Yes, my husband knew about the whole thing, as he trusts me and knew I was just going to get my children and meet with friends.

He's in the wrong here. His focus should be you and if getting in touch with old girlfriends important to him cut him loose... I don't trust there could be a good motive for this behavior. When you divorce him and he remarries, I bet he will try to get a hold of you too.

I think anyone would be upset if their partner were contacting old flames.

This would be the time to review your relationship. It is one think to have present contact; it is another to rekindle previous ones.

What ever the reason, it still present challenges to the your relationship.

Answer: Ask your husband what is going on?

If there was nothing to it, then why is he lying?! He shouldn't be doing anything that upsets you, especially calling ex-girlfriends. I'm not saying he's doing something, but he shouldn't be lying because then it makes you wonder.

Is he setting up a class reunion? I think I would ask him why before I would get upset. Maybe he just wants to remember old times and old friends. My guy has looked up old girlfriends, so what they were married and had completely different lives and looked a heck of a lot different too. Afterall he married me if he wanted to marry them he would have done it years before me!

If your husband is doing that, the question would be why. Are you doing something - or not doing something - that is helping him make the decision to do that? There is more going on than just "your husband is calling old girlfriends."

Maybe you need to learn the secret of being content in any and every situation. Or maybe you need to put the Bible down, stop concentrating on some afterlife, and take care of this life. If you are as religious as you sound, maybe he just can't stand being so unimportant to you when compared to your religious rituals and facades.

Males are polygamist by nature, and only hypocrites will say otherwise. We'll just have to learn to accept that fact.

I think you looking too much into it. Obviously he doesn't feel for them as he does you or else he would have married them. He may feel like his social life has gone downhill and is seeking some old friends.