Is your partner friends with their ex.?

Yeah, this ahs caused so many problems with us like alot more arguments than usual. my partners ex has recently said that she still likes him so i think he has sorta started seeing it from my point of view. But either way your not alone girl, talk to him if he really values your relationship he would cut ties with her or at least not see her so much. Goodluck hun but just remember if he doesn't even react to what you tell him he is not worth the hassle as at the end of the day a current partner is more important than an ex.

Yes- and I absolutely hate it. He dumped her years ago so I know I don't really need to worry, but I don't understand why either of them feel the need to keep in touch- he tried for ages to get rid of her, and she was all emotionally traumatised when he dumped her. Yeah, that's the sort of people you want to keep in your life?!?!?

He can't seem to get it in his head that just because she's not trying to get back with him doesn't mean there isn't some emotional connection she is trying to hold on to. And just because she has a new boyfriend doesn't mean she's 100% "over" him. Emotions are a little more complex than that.

And like a previous poster said, I HATE the idea of him looking at her and thinking about their sex life or something. Come on, everyone's mind drifts a little when faced with someone they've had sex with.

And it's not even just one ex, it's pretty much every girl he's ever dated, however briefly, he feels the need to keep in contact with. WHY?! He isn't a player, he didn't try to get them to keep sleeping with him, he just wants to be mates with everyone and apparently this is one of his ways of making friends! I just think he's too naive when it comes to how women think.

I ask him how he'd feel if I kept in touch with my ex, and he just comes up with reasons why it's "different", usually by implying that my relationships have all been inferior and "just physical" so why would I want to unless I was shagging them?

I swear our relationship issues would be almost 0 if it weren't for this... Nice to see I'm not alone in my feelings, as he just can't see to understand it at all. Men can be so thick sometimes!

My husband is still good friends with his ex-fiance, but she is the total opposite of this psycho! I love her, I think she's a great person and I'm glad she and my husband have remained friends.

However, it doesn't sound like that's what's going on here. If your partner doesn't want to let this girl go, you really need to express to him how much it is hurting the relationship between the two of you. If he can't drop her, you should probably do what you have to do for yourself.

He was - I hated it so now he's not. She would only ever talk about joint friends and stuff they used to do. If she spoke about current things I wouldn't of had such a problem with her. He used to see her a lot and I was subjected to it when we first got together. Her and her best friend once ganged up on me at a party (we were nearly 30!!) and I put my foot down and said when we moved in together I didn't want her coming round and didn't want to see her anymore. It worked. I trust him - completely but didn't trust her AT ALL.

Well it wasnt his Ex it was a girl who was very obcessed with him after a one night stand he had before he met me, he got a restraining order against her and had to get a new number....she caused alot of arguements between me and my boyfriend. I only started getting paranoid as he had to meet her one time as she was claiming she was pregnant with his child and he was so drunk the night he had done stuff with her he couldnt remember using protection! So he met up with her and of course she tried it on again and had made up that she was pregnant , even started a rumor that she had being sleeping with my boyfriend behind my back....i wanted to kill her ! coz it just caused more problems!! but 3 yrs on me n my boyfriend r still together and very much in love and the sad cow has hopefully gone off too bug sumone else! yay!!

No absolutely not. I don't like the idea of him still being mates withs someone he has slept with. I wouldnt necessarily feel he would cheat or anything but having her constantly in my head and in his life would hurt me. I am a little sensitive like that and think that if youre like me images of them would keep popping up. Plus when they are out having a coffee or something would he be remembering her naked or thinking how he use to really enjoy their times together ahhh...i hate the thought actually :o).

Used to. He'd get pissy whenever I asked him to stop, mainly because all they did was cause drama. But he wouldn't listen. I wasn't paranoid that he'd leave me for them, but this did show other problems in the relationship. Now he's an ex but not my friend.

Ewww sounds nasty! Have u asked ur partner y he rates the froendship with her so much? Would he consider cutting ties if he knew how much it upset u(as well as it sounding totally unhealthy) I would certainly consider asking him to get rid honey x

I would hate that. I think, if possible i.e. they are not in a circle of friends, you should cut them out entirely.

That's just my personal opinion.

no she isn't, but i would not be happy if she was. it just never works in my opinion, ex's tend to keep contact because they still have feelings.

I wouldn't be paranoid, cos I trust her, it would be him that I had an issue with.