what should I do?????/?

Basically when your starving any food looks good..............when you are starving in a relationship your appetite for intimacy causes you to crave things that really might not be what you like or may not cut that craving in the end. If you are unhappy and dont want to learn to be happy again with him then leave. DO NOT leave because of another person. It will only come up again and th e next person will always think "whats gonna happen when shes tired of me" Been there done that and got several tshirts. Bottom line do what you do becasue its best for you and you are settled with the idea of being alone. Once you are happy with you then u can make a more rational decision.

First and foremost... don't leave a marriage to be with someone else. Leave a marriage because you've done everything you can possibly do to save it and it hasn't worked.

Because of your vows, you owe it to your husband to put it all on the table about your feelings of unhappiness. Give him an opportunity to make it right. I would urge you to seek couples therapy with your husband. This will provide a safe environment for both of you to express your feelings without being misunderstood. Through therapy, you both will find out if your marriage is worth saving.

Also remember that as long as you've mentally put your marriage on hold you are going to keep being attracted to other people. They are fulfilling some of the things that are lacking in your marriage. It's very possible that your marriage can once again fulfill you that way, but only when you face the things that are wrong with it first.

Good luck.

Like many women here, you are talking about abstract concepts that perhaps only women can emphathize or understand. What love are you looking for from your husband? 24x7 hand holding telling you how important you are? Or despite the many things you have, you are looking for those missing?

Kids stories tell us about the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow, which doesn't exist. Aren't we talking about the same thing? Grass looks greener next door -- and that other guy may not even like you. Which brings the last blunt question: what do you really have to offer to deserve someone better than your husband????

i would be honest with your husband and get counseling to deal with what is going on. as for the other guy, you don't

need too start open new chapter when you have not closed

one that you are in. especially when you don't even know if'

he has feeling for you. time to get out of one thing then

maybe pursuit the other guy.

you talk about your marriage like you are in high school,,, why are you so unhappy in your marriage? and you "like" a guy and dont know if he" likes" you? does he know your married? you sound a little weak,, you put yourself in the situation you are in,, you WANT temptation,, and you are just looking for an excuse to end it w/ your husband, so just do him a favor, leave already!