Family problems?

First off dont give up and keep talking. Remember no parents are perfect and sometimes raise their kids the way they were raised. Why dont you take them out to dinner some night. Treat them to a night out and keep the conversations light. I think it is wonderful you recognize the importance of family and how short life is. Some day you will make a great parent. Always remember it is never to late just dont give up. Try not to bring up the past to them because you cant bring that back. But I have a feeling if you keep trying they will eventually come around and you could have a great relationship with them. Good luck, you sound like a wonderful son!

i've some kind of similar problem. My parents were not meant to be parents. There are some long stories and well...whatever they didn't really want me.

I've had a lot of problems with them when a teenager (not because of a teenage crisis) such as being called names, or being said that i prefer not think of.

As soon as they could they sent me away from home (which was a relieve for me) and sent me to a horrible place where i didn't want to be (after many lies). Now, i am making my own life and they can't pretend to be part of it. I mean we are leaving away and i'll leave the country in a few years, we don't call each other that often etc.

Contrary to your parents they aren't remorseful ("i deserved it because i was born and they didn't want me") which i regret to a certain extent.

i prefer not to call my parents because they are too hard, i prefer taking my time, writing an e-mail that can be closer to what i think. I guess in that kind of situation it's the best, taking your time to WRITE something that will be closer to the truth, to your feelings. I guess you should tell them that you don't blame them. Maybe with your siblings? But definitly, writing sounds better than calling!

I also think you should take time before spending some time together!

How nice a man of you that you could forgive what your parents have done to you! After all you are family, just keep trying to contact them and keep praying to God for help for I know it won't be long before your parents would change their mind.Maybe you can try sending them a little gift on Mother's Day or Father's Day to let them know that you still love them and see whether they would have any response. Love creats miracles. May God bless you all !

Here's an idea...try taking them someplace that they haven't been before. That will allow you to spend some time together doing something other than having awkward conversations that don't seem to go anywhere.

It's such a nice change of pace to see someone that is trying to heal their family instead of blaming everyone for their current predicament. Good Job!!!

i'm sorry sweetie about your childhood and you are to be commend on your mature attitude and wanting to have some type of relationship with your parents in spite of their parenting skills. maybe they did the best that they knew how. not everyone is meant to be parents. maybe you can write them a letter to express your feelings and what your intentions are for a future relationship with them. good luck sweetie i pray this helps you to mend your relationship together

Try writing them a letter and express how you feel.Its good that you can forgive them for the treatment that they dished out..

This may come as a surprise.but before you push any further have them tested for mental illness-I suspect there is something there.