what is the next step?

answer above is right, but you should now proceed to go to counselling on your own... Situation was reversed for us... I was the one refusing to go... He asked if I minded if he went alone... (I said, go ahead, but he could have gone no matter what I said...) Once he started to go, I felt like I should go too... Not sure how it's going to work out as even with counselling, sometimes things don't work... but I got converted by his decision to go on his own... Even if your hubby doesn't change his mind, a competent counsellor can help you decide "the next step."

Go to a marriage counselor! When you get there tell the counselor that your husband doesnt want to go with you. He/she may be able to give you some tips on what to say to him to convince him to attend. If you still cant get him to go, you can still go by yourself. The counselor will help you work out your feelings and work on making your marriage a positive one. Good luck.

Sorry hon, Hes done. He doesnt want this anymore and your pestering isnt helping. You have to have a heart to heart and work on the separation so it can be as smooth as possible for both of u. Now is the time u need to focus on your futures apart and help yourselves through the transition without mudslinging and making things worse and harder.

YOu might want to explain to him that you will not live this way and if he refuses to work on your relationship that a divorce would be the next step...

I think you should go to counseling on your own. A good therapist will be able to help you sort things out for yourself. Once you do this, you can see things from a different perspective.

Then leave him girl....obvisily he doesnt want to fix things and im pretty sure you all dont have that much communication going on....ask one more time if he wants too explain that if you dont your marriage is done because you cant take this anymore and if you dont know what to do then the marriage counslor will!

If he refuses to go then he may already have given in to the idea of divorce or seperation.

what are you talking about !??

no man can do what you want without a reason a real one do you have one for him ??

try to give him one good reason!

try to talk about your problems first as a start and find out what he want and what he need??

if you did !? you will forget about a marriage counseling!

You have to figure out if you can stand him anymore. I agree with below. Counseling on your own would be helpful for further advice.

heres some advice.... if u agree.

Do you still love him?

if yes, being love ur partner and care for him. Plus wanna a better life to be together for ur life time.

You cant force ur partner to change to suit u and only that person want to change.

1st. change urself that what will cause both parties end up arguement. you're doing this because you love him better than anyone and in future he'll noticed your change. Then i think he'll change his bad things to suit you too and .....

*important*

Dont wait till something worse coming (lost heart) then GAMEOVER.

if no....

Why do you choose him in 1st place to be ur partner?

..... up to u...

continue or gameover?