I won't let my niece name her baby after my deceased sister(her mother)?

I KNOW IT IS HARD FOR YOU TO LET YOUR NIECE NAME HER 2 DAUGHTER AFTER YOU SISTER,BUT MAYBE YOU AND HER CAN COME TO A UNDERSTANDING ABOUT THE NAME,MAYBE SHE CAN USE A PART OF HER MOTHERS NAME.I HAD A BROTHER THAT DIED,AND MY OTHER BROTHER WANTED TO USE MY BROTHERS NAME THAT HAD DIED,I WAS UPSTAND TOO,BUT AFTER I THOUGH ABOUT IT,I CAME TO LOOK AT HIS WAY, HE WAS NOT TRING TO HURT NOBODY,BUT TO REMEMBER MY BROTHER. SO LOOK AT YOUR NIECE WAY OF THOUGH. SHE IS WANTING TO REMBER HER MOTHER THOUGH HER DAUGHTER. SO JUST THINK ABOUT THAT. NOT THAT SHE IS DOING OUT OF SPIKED. SHE HAD HER FIGHTES WITH HER MOTHER.AND SHE KNOWS IT WAS WRONG. SO LET HER USE YOUR SISTERS OR SOME PARTS OF IT. I KNOW IT WILL HURT,BUT EVERYTIME YOU SEE THAT PRETTY LET GIRL WITH YOUR SISTERS NAME YOU WILL REMBER HOW MUCH YOU LOVE HER.

Personally, people are gonna name their kids whatever they want to. I wouldn't demand her not to use your sisters name. Maybe suggest she use that for the middle name. When someone uses one of their relatives in their childrens name it's an honor, regardless of number of children before or if the person named after is alive or not. This is a petty thing. The most important thing is supporting your niece emotionally and help her raise a wonderful person. Put yourself in her shoes. If your aunt demanded you not to use your mother's name in your future child's name, how would you feel? Maybe ask her the reason behind using it now. She might miss her mom a lot and naming her child after her mom might help her thru the grieving process.

most of the time or at least with a lot of the people i know. Unless its a boy name passing on in a family. For girl names the name is passed on after the loved one has pasted to show honor and love. I dont think its right your demanding her not to name her child that. her and her mother may have fought alot , and this might be her away of making amends for it in her heart. and in the end its her child, how are you really going to stop her from naming the child what she wishes.

Even though your niece and sister didn't get along doesn't mean they didn't love each other. Maybe your niece didn't realize how much until her mother was gone. I think it would be a nice memory of your sister for her daughter to want to name her baby after her. Do you think your sister would want this kind of animosity between you and her daughter going on? For God sake let her rest in peace and let her be honored with her granddaughter carrying on her name.

You are wrong to demand your niece not to name her child after her own mother. A lot of people don't name their child after someone who is still alive, they do it after their death as a way of remembering them &/or showing respect/appreciationg for them. A lot of people don't want their child to have the same name as a family member while they're still alive because of confusion & other reasons. You have no right to tell your niece she can't name HER child after HER mother. You are trying to be too controlling & your lack of understanding is disrespectful. This is not your baby so she has a right to name her baby whatever she wants, & if you don't like it, too bad.

I think it's her decision. She obviously feels remorse after your sister's passing. It is never to late to feel sorry and apologize (even if you sister is dead) and maybe this is her way of making peace with her mother. This is a tough thing to do for her (as I am sure it is for you to have to endure the pain of loss of your sister and the arguments they had before her death) but maybe this is a good thing. Make a promise to your sister (as your niece should do) to give this child all the love she deserves.

Good Luck and I am sorry for your loss but congratulations on the new member of the family.

I'm sorry I must agree with everyone else, its her mom, its her baby... yeah they may have disagreed time and time again but this would be a dedication to her, she showing how much no matter through thick and thin she truly did love her mother. If my child ends up being a boy I'm naming the baby after my grandfather who has already passed away, its from her heart, think about that

I understand where you come from with the anger but let it go. She is trying to honor her mother by naming the baby after her. She may feel it is the only way for her to hold on to her mother. Don't fight her over it, would your sister want you fighting over this? I bet NO. And with naming her first after her did she expect to lose her mom? You need to think with a clear head on this. It is not a disgrace for her to name the new baby after her mom it is an honor, it is done in remembrance. Let her do it. It will be difficult for a while but you will be glad she did. Trust me I have been there.

well, techinally you have no say- it's her choice, not yours. Maybe she wanted to avoid the confusion of 2 people with the same name in the family (big Lois and little Lois gets kind of tiresome after awhile)..... Or maybe she just never imagined she'd lose her Mom and wants to honor her now. Lighten up, or you'll risk your relationship with her, and may not get the chance to this baby, whatever her name is. And if you have kids you surely should know that mother's and daughter's often disagree, and more than once, but still love each other dearly.

Sorry I don't agree with you. If she wants to name her baby after HER mother than she should. I understand she is your sister, but the woman was her mother. Maybe she wants to remember her mother (by the way lots of people name their kids after grandparents & family members, alive or deceased, so what's the difference?) What if you wanted to name your child after your mother & your aunt forbid you to do that, how would you feel? I'm not trying to be mean or anything like that but I don't think it's going to matter to her whether you agree or disagree with her she is going to do it if she wants to & really you have no way to stop her from doing it.

Yes, you are wrong, you don't get to demand anything of her. She is an adult, she is not your child, and if she wants to name her baby after your sister (whether that means her mom or her aunt, I'm not sure), it is her business. Just because they had rough times between them does not mean she didn't love her and this is one way of her showing it.

You sound like you have control issues. Leave your niece alone, this is her decision.