I have a 8 year old son, and he is very emotional!?

I have two boys and they are both very emotional at times. My older one had a difficult time adjusting to school. He would become tired because of the longer days (compared to Kindergarten) and still has a hard focusing on what needs to be done. You have to understand that he is just a little more emotional then other children. Maybe he is having a difficult time "getting it" at school and taking his frustrations out this way. Maybe he has emotional problems that could be addressed if you take him to see a therapist. Is there any kind of mental problems that run in your family? Has anything happened within his life lately that would cause him to feel "out of control" over situations? I would discuss your issue with his doctor and maybe look into getting a child therapist to help out. Like I said ... it is normal for little boys to seem a little "winey" but when it goes beyond that is when you might want to seek outside help. Getting him involved in a sport or maybe karate might help him focus some of his energy in a good way too. I hope this helps! Good luck!

Emotional 8 Year Old

My 8 yr old son cries when he is sad or when he is happy. I do not understand what is going on. It seems to be getting worse. We were watching tv the other night and a woman was crying. He told me that he feels like that all the time. Even when he is playing horsey with his little sister. And that it takes a lot of hard work on his part not to cry. I have tried asking him what is going on. He tells me that he dose not want to cry but it is always there. How do I help my son through this? We do not have the luxury to go to drs or therapist. What can a mother do.

He needs to be taught appropriate ways to express his feelings. When he doesn't do something right he is probably getting frustrated and handling the frustration the only way he knows how. Tell him (calmly) to try it again, help him if he needs it and then praise him when it gets it right. You can also praise him when he just does something right...anything.

As far as the things not working for him or going his way, this is also a result of him being unsure how to express himself. Ask him (calmly again) to tell you what is wrong, if he cant, help him out. Then show him ways to solve the problem. But he also has to know that things wont go his way all the time. If you have tried the above and it still does not work and he trows a fit, ignore it...unless he is hurting someone. Tell him "I will talk to you when you can calmly tell me what is wrong and what we can do to fix it."

But from the sounds of the other people who have answered the question, it seems to be a problem in boys this age. I wonder if it has to do with how our society expects them to act. I think we forget how much children pick up on things.

Good luck.

I too have a son that is the same age and has similar issues. He has emotional outbursts like crying at the drop of a hat of getting angry very quickly (impulsive). He also was having attention issues in class and when I had him assessed by a psychologist they said he was ADHD. Now I am not suggesting that your child has the same thing. I am only suggesting that his impulsive behavior can be a symptom of ADHD. I hope this helps. Give some thought to taking him to your Pediatrician and see what the doctor suggests. Good luck!!

My eight year old is very emotional too. Anything can make him cry. At first we thought it was the medicine he was on that made him emotional. But we have took him off it and he is still the same way. After talking to teachers they said he does this at school too. I took him to the Dr. and he said it could be possible depression and now I need to take my son to a therapist to be evaluated. So my guess ir talk to your Dr. to see if they can help.

i know exactly what you mean i have a 9 year old that has been the same way for the past 3 years... he started getting picked on this year at school because other boy's saw him as an easy target... so i enrolled him in karate classes and it has done wonders for his self confidence... the whining and crying has much improved and he feels so much better about himself...

it is whine and it is a word, at least it is in my house lol. You need to help him learn some self control. Get him to take a deep breath count to 10 and try again. Make him realise that at 8 he can not do everything and sometimes we all need help.

I totally understand what your going through my son is going through the same thing... I try and not yell at him as much as possible cause he will scream and cry or run to his room it's so horrible. If you ever need to talk you can im me doodlebug10599

i understand you!! my 13 year old is just starting to out grow the whiny phase!!! i didn't realize that my son had learning disabilities and was having a hard time at school. once he started doing better in school, his behavior and mood at home started to get better. he still has bad days that are usually related to his day at school. we just sit down and talk about what is going through his mind. it usually works. when this doesn't work, i just spend time with him (playing games etc). this reminds him that i still love him for who he is.

i still constantly worry about his self esteem though! guess thats the joys of being a mom!!