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For those who have lost a child to terminal illness:?
My best friends child has terminal cancer. I'm thinking of asking her if she would like to make a package for her mom for after she's gone. Do you think this is wise? The child is 14, and is an only child. Dx'd at the beginning of the year, only given to the end (maybe) of this year. I was thinking, maybe notes, or small trinkets for special days, or just letting her use her own imagination, with the promise of delivering.
It seems I've read of this before, or saw it in a movie. Would it be appropriate, in your opinion, for me to even casually mention it? Or should I just allow life to go on as it is? They are *extremely* close.
5 Answers
- ann sLv 41 decade agoFavorite Answer
My Goodness, what a beautiful thought, 100 out of 100 for caring
200 out of 100 for loving someone that much and being so aware of the situation
they say everyone here on earth has a special angel for them your friend and her daughter are blessed they have you, follow your heart it's going in the right direction.
from a mother who has lost children and sisters to cancer
from the song by Diana Ross reach out and touch somebodies hand make this world a better place if you can
- Anonymous1 decade ago
Oh, goodness, I don't think I would do that...it might just scare the girl...I mean, how would you like it if you were in this situation and someone said, "Hey, why don't you put some stuff in a box so your mom can read it after you're dead...I mean, you're going to die, so let's do it...for your mom"
That's a bit insensitive.
Also, I have a heart condition, and I have been through times of sickness and such, where I felt awful and...well, living was a bit of a question. I know that I would have just gotten depressed if someone had asked me that. And if I did make a box, it would really just be very...disheartening...making a box of things for someone to look at seems very final...like you're giving up hope.
I would recommend that you don't ask her about this...maybe watch the movie you saw it in with her, and if she likes the idea, then let her mention it...don't ask her if she wants to...it seems a bit like you're giving up on her.
- 1 decade ago
i have never lost a child to terminal illness...but I think that it would be very thoughtful. It would depend on how this 14 yr old feels about what is happening to her. Has she accepted it? Is she in denial? Is she angry? If she has accepted that she is going to die I would mention it to the child and see what she thinks. It would mean a lot to her mother. I think for the mother that would be the best gift ever from that child. good luck
- Stephanie VLv 61 decade ago
Does the girl already know that she has a terminal illness?
If the answer is yes and she's accepting the fact, your idea it's great, but you'll need to find the right time to do it, cause it could be a lot feelings for the child and even you.
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- 1 decade ago
Maybe=ok i had an idea.
Why don't you have her write notes for every day, just short little "I love you- your daughter" notes and an occaisonal letter, and YOU will send one every day, of when she decides. That way, she'll always be around. i read about this in a book.
