Age Difference of 16.5 Years?

I was married to a man who was 16 years older than I was. It was the biggest mistake of my life! The age gap was too great and it seemed that we couldn't connect on any level after we married. We divorced 3 years later.

The age difference you are speaking of is dependent on the culture you are

living in. The family life you and your bride is use to and are expecting to

live when you are married.

In general if both man and woman is happy with the family life together, then

all will work out well. If there is a change in culture for the family,

adjustments have to be make to permit personal happiness for all involved.

I didn't believe they still arranged marriages now these days. I look at the situation like this, 16.5 years is huge, she's young and how you know her to be know could totally change drastically in the next couple of years, and you might have made a huge mistake. She's still a child if you ask me. I was with a guy 14 yrs my senior after eight years of the relationship there was a huge difference in our relationship, 2 totally different people. You'll try and make her to what you want her to be, and she'll change and become what she want's. Don't get me wrong it could be the best thing that's ever happened to both of you, but don't be disappointed if it dosen't work out to your advantage. I do however wish you both the best of luck.

Beside the age difference , what concerns me is that you said she is your cousin!!!! Like how close of cousin are you?I mean marriages can work with a large age gap, but to marry your cousin is inmoral. I would suggest at least waiting until she is 18, then she is considered an adult and she can make the decsion herself. Again, what troubles me the most is that you said she is your cousin. It just isn't right to marry a family member. There are all sorts of things wrong with that......period

i am 24rs old and my husband is 38 and we have been married since i was 18 and so far we have had a happy marriage we also have two kids i see no reason why the age difference is a problem if you really love the person you are going to be with

You people are disgusting! Marrying your own cousin...who is just a child herself. WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU PEOPLE? What will affect your future is having to care for your children for the rest of your lives, because their parents were digusting and married and now have kids who have all these deformities.

I think it is wrong because for one she is your cousin and she is just a baby.You can go to jail behind her.I think it is best you find someone else that is close to your age and not in your family.Your family is wrong for trying to make you and your cousin marry in the first place.

if you live in pakistan also then I think it will work fine. You will have a lot of family around to make sure things go well and then such an age difference is not unusual in Pakistan.

Age doesn't matter if your commited to making it work, It's the whole "my family is marrying me" comment that you should be worried about the most, although I doubt you have a choice....

My mom and dad are 17 years difference in age. So what!! They're happy!