Love isn't everything,isn't it?!!!!!!?

real, true, pure, die hard love is everything!!!

Love isnt love. Its a loaded word and culture has loaded a lot of baggage onto the word.

You could tell your husband the story of the strong mans heart, and ask if its true. The strongest man in the world has his heart stolen - he becomes so weak because he cant fight. The weakest man in the world gets a very passionate and powerful heart - and he is able to take on a very strong man and win.

Your husband will say of course.

You could tell your husband the current american teenage story, and ask if its true. Two hormone and culturally baggaged teenagers become sexually engaged and experience an emotional high, but when adult responsiblity and real life and struggles come into their lives the emotional high they called love is supremely insufficient to sustain their relationship.

Your husband will say of course.

When you say love, you don't mean hormones. You dont mean the attraction to an idea of who a person is that cant stand up to the reality of a person being different than expected.

When you say love, you do mean something that is based on solid reality, and gives great strength to the heart. When you say love you are talking about the quality of relationship for the weak man that makes him fight for his wife, and gives him the courage, passion, and .. fight to win.

When you say the baggage word, "love", your husband isnt hearing the true meaning.

Love is the only game where you put in a penny and get out a quarter. Even in a broken love, you put in a penny and get out a dime. -Tadeusz

Love is the only game, so much so that every game wants to call itself love. Real love is reality based, not expectation, hormones, and self-service.

Um, I don't really know if that is a yes or no question. I can say that in my opinion, and I am engaged to be married to the ultimate love of my life, that love is what is made after everything else that makes a relationship is acquired. Trust, honesty, loyalty, pride in who you are w/, similarities and differences and acceptance of each, committment to one another, desires, passions, shared dreams, writing new chapters together...yes, all of those things form a bond called love and it is the glue that holds you together. As couples, we experience good and bad and it's the love that gets us thru the bad times. Love is just a word to simply all the other things, it's the solid emotion based off of everything else I mentioned. Such an example being.."I love you" is easier than saying.."I admire, trust, desire you and will be loyal, honest and devoted to you..etc etc"....see what I am saying? Love is not just one feeling or doing...it is a combination of everything you build together as a couple. If you don't have those things, then you don't have love and therefore, should re-evaluate your current position, unless you're happy with the way things are then do whatever suits you. Good luck.

Is love everything? Probably not. I think people can live without it if it doesn't happen to them.

I don't think this is something you should argue with your husband about or even discuss to the point that he feels that he has to give in just to make you happy!

Let him have his point of view if it makes him happy, what harm is there in that? You know you love each other, and that should be what is the most important thing to you!

He doesn't deny your emphasis that love is the most important thing in a relationship. as i understand from you, but i didn't understand what is the problem? you don't feel he is serious?

i can't understand what is the point of the debate you're raising with him? want to prove you are right? Yes, You are right!

May be you have to "listen" to what he has to say instead of forcing one face of the truth, let him express himself and explain to you how does he see it.

May be his point of view isn't wrong (in your opinion) after all.

And you both get along with this issue and move on on the next obstacle in the complex relationship of "marriage"!

I wish you and him and Maro all the happiness.

ok,i think that love is the most important thing,but not everything...i find that example a lot,when a woman and her hubby get old,and love began to fade away,what can make them stay together?

i think it's fellowship(el 3eshra) that what will make them continue to respect each other and tolerate each other...and I'm with you against they saying that love doesn't pay the bills,

yes it does,what will make the man work to satisfy his family and pay the bills in the first place:love!

at last,believe me,that argument between man and woman will continue,as we have different opinions about love and intimacy..we are from Venus and they are from mars!

in marriage the serenity prayer works for most things and this is a good example. People think differently. Doesn't mean that one or the other is right it just means that they are different. Why would it be so important for your husband to think like you unless you are a control person. The prayer:

God, Grant me the Courage to change the things I can,

Bless me with the Humbleness to accept the things I cannot,

And show me the Wisdom to know the difference.

Amen.

Love is a wonderful thing and it makes the world a better place but sadly it is not everything

There are a lot of people who take advantage of love and they minipulate people because of it

As long as there is love there will always be things that threaten it

Why does he have to agree with you? Does it really matter? Do you think you are wrong if he doesn't think the same way you think? Is this "discussion" really worth the answer? How will the answer enhance or change your life?

To me, sometimes love isn't enough but that doesn't mean that those who disagree with me are wrong, they just think different because they are different.

I think respect is the most important thing. You can love someone all you want but if you cant show your love in a positive way then it means nothing.

I suspect your husband was uncomfortable with the amount of importance you placed on love. I don't think you can say that one thing is the most important thing in a relationship...things all work together dont they?

Without my children, my relationship wouldnt be what it is...without my career my relationship would be different, without a nice place to live...without the friendship my partner and I have...

I could go on...I feel that love is just a word after all...