Would a guy want to know?

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Turns out I was pregnant and didn't know it. At what I've figured out was about 6 weeks, my body got rid of it. I don't know 100% because this is way to early to know for sure but nothing else makes sense as to why my body did what it did. (I'll spare you the details but I read enough about it to know there's no other thing it could have been) Now, should my boyfriend know about this? Or will it just freak him out? He was unsure he could have children due to an operation he had as a child and so since he hasn't been tested for fertility in a while, this does sort of clear up any doubts either of us had. It also encourages us to be more careful. But, maybe it's not worth it to tell him about it. Need some opinions here. 
Thanks!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I would hope that you have a strong relationship with him and that he could accept the information. Why would you want to go through a miscarriage alone? That didn't freak you out? If he had concerns about his ability to procreate you should share this information with him so he can make more informed decisions in his future.

Hoover_169 · Answer

Letting him know is the best course of action your thoughts are correct on that.  Better to know now then find out later from someone else or in some other way so better to tell him face to face.

mbucket · Answer

If you cannot tell him about it because he may freak out, what will you do if you ever get pregnant and HAVE the kid? This may be a great way to test his loyalty !

. · Answer

You know him...you could tell him if you feel it's important that he know with re: to his fertility...but otherwise I wouldn't tell someone I'd miscarried a potential kid if they weren't aware I'd been pregnant. Doesn't seem any point in saying "yeah, you were almost a father"...

Anonymous · Answer

That happened to my sister and her boyfriend was also under the impression he was infertile. She wasn't originally gonna tell him but she eventually did. He was sad. I would be too. I would want to know though. But it may mean that he's fertile. If you guys want kids you may want to see a specialist.

evelyngrz · Answer

You need to tell him.. of course he should know he is your boyfriend and he would of been the father of that baby is nothing would of happened...and yes be more careful

Kent H · Answer

you should tell him. 
Make decisions together about your future.
Figure out if you really were pregnant.
Don't hide your emotional loss, he should support you.
He'd like to know if he's fertile.

divers_godeeper · Answer

I would....it was his baby too. Not only that but you could both support each other through this. If he was never sure if he could have children doesnt he dserve to know that he can.

Mandie · Answer

i think you should deffinately tell him. it'll show you guys to be more careful or if you're ready for kids, this could be a conversation you two have. good luck!

joeysdudes · Answer

Keep it to yourself... But be more careful in the future!

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