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Sarah C- Equine Help 101
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Sarah C- Equine Help 101 asked in Family & RelationshipsSingles & Dating · 1 decade ago

What can I do to help me thro this... Please be nice.?

Me and this guy I had a 'thing' with just kind of broke up and he didn't even really give me a reason why. He just stopped talking to me, blocked me and is completely ignorin me. I realy liked this guy and we really had something going---

Idk what went wrong but now Im devastated and i CANT stop thinking about everything that happened between us. What i may have did wrong or if thats really even the reason....?I know that hes a loser for doing that but im not completely convinced at my own words.

I miss him so much. Every song reminds me of him, simple small things remind me of him, ive been trying to take walks, write poetry, music, reading. I knw it sounds crazy but i just sleep all day and cry..I knw its time 2 move on (its only been a day) but its so hard to find a diversion.

WHAT CAN I DO? AND HOW CAN I BECOME MORE INDEPENDANT? Better yet is that all my friends are away for the summer and are offering little support-- i have only me, myself and I to make it through this.

Update:

He's done this before- but he always comes back. I think its for real this time-- and that makes me immensly sad even though he tears me up inside a lot of times by doing this to me....

If he tries to come back should I say no? Is this unhealthy for me to be involved in?

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  • Barb Outhere
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago
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    Is it unhealthy to become involved again when he's broken it off twice before? I'd say yes.

    Please be more gentle with yourself. You say its only just happened, so give yourself permission to grieve. A lost relationship is like a little death, and does take time to get over. It's especially hard when you don't know why, but - even though its a cliche - things will get better with time. Be kind to yourself, eat well, exercise lightly, and don't hide in your room all day. Treat yourself like a friend that's had a hard time. What would you do for them? You would want them to look after themselves wouldn't you? So be your own friend.

    And if things get too dark, and you are afraid of your thoughts, reach out for help. Its waiting out there.

  • Janet E
    1 decade ago

    Barb gave a great answer. She's right. It really is like a little death, and the grief is real. But trying to bring the relationship "back to life" is not good for you. Mourn its passing. But look at what's good about yourself, and I think you know you are capable of having a lasting relationship with someone who cares for you and will be around for you and make you really happy. That person isn't the one. You will have to get to the other side. But once you do, you will be so happy. I can only say, trust me. That's what will happen. Happiness is on the way.

  • thinkbig
    1 decade ago

    If he has done this to you in the past and the present, then he will continue in the future. Yes this is a very unhealthy relationship. The hurt will subside in due time, but dont go rushing into another relationship. Take your time to know what you want .Get out there and start dating again and get your mind off him for a bit

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