Pregnant & Wondering?

I would say no. If he's not even going to be part of the baby's life, why give him/her a name that will forever remind him/her of an absent father?

Personally I wouldn't. Why would you name your child after someone who's not going to be involved? I broke up with the father of my baby before I even found out I was pregnant, but even if we were still together, the child would be getting my name because we are not married.

I don't know where you live but where I live, you cannot give the baby the father's name unless you are married. If you are not married, then the father has to sign a release form allowing you to use his name as the baby's. Without the release form, the baby gets your name.

Well, is he not going to be in the babies life because he has passed or because he's a douche bag? If you want to give the child his name as a memoriam then that might be okay but if not then he shouldn't get any recognition if he's not even willing to take care of the child. You also have to consider what the child with think if she/he has a different last name than you. They might feel left out of the family or confused. But it's really up to you, good luck.

If the father has any name on the birth certificate its a lot harder for him to return in the childs life and be able to be accepted for any type custody he might otherwise be entitled to. This does not mean he would be refused any custody access in the end. It would be a lot easier to exclude any names from the childs life, but still keep details so that the child could get in contact with father in the future if they choose.

Well that's a very personal decision, I think if he is not going to be in the babies life at all it would be best for the baby to not have his last name.

If this were me and the father would not be a part of the child's life I would use my name. For one thing what would be the purpose of giving he or she the same last name of someone who doesn't care to be in the child's life? And second, it would simply make things easier if both you and your child had the same last name. Hope this helps.

Umm, if you are sure that the father is absolutely out of the picture than no. If this guy isn't going to be with the baby why should he or she have that last name? That's just my opinion.

No. The father of my eldest son, did exactly that and he has my last name. I am now married with 2 other children and they have my husbands name. My kids all think it is great that the ekdest has a different name, and my family name gets to carry on. If he is not there to help, or even be known, then why should your child carry his name?

If he's not going to be in the baby's life then I wouldn't give he/she his last name.

I think it would be nice to have the father's last name...since if you gave her/him your last name it would be more like your sister/brother....

I asked myself the same question and I think it's more appropriate to give the child the right name afterall ....