How do you keep your identity?

without over analyzing the question: I would say the best way to maintain your identity in any relationship and not just a marriage would be to make time for yourself, it could be an hour or two, whatever, find out what you enjoy doing and take time out to do it, alone, or even with your other girlfriends. If you find yourself sitting on the couch watching yet another episode of UFC fight night, and RESENTING it...you are on your way to losing your identity. Speak up for yourself, respect that you enjoy different things, and allow yourself some personal space to grow....that way you always feel like you've got something to give back to the relationship.

I really don't understand your question. As far as my identity to others unknown to me, I try to keep it hidden for the most part. You must understand that as being married and having a life that your own personal identity that you are used to being will change during this time. You have no choice usually. Things that change this will be from going from single to married life, having children, being responsible for certain areas that before you weren't. There several other issues but I'm sure that you get my point.

How you keep your identity after you get married and after kids- is you do stuff outside of what a mom and wife does- job? hobbies? Dont let this make you neglect kids or husband- though. You can still have your identity, it's all in how you manage your time.

What identity are you trying to keep?? Your "single unmarried" identity? Once you become married and have children you will become a new person with a different set of priorities and goals in life. You won't be who you are now. Why would you want to?

Legally- you don't. U.S. (federal) laws virtually strip you of status as an individual while you are married. Examples:

* IRS tax codes written with ASSUMPTIONS that you benefitted from the income of your spouse even if he hid every dime from you- see married filing separate tax guidelines & note that you even lose the "low income" tax credit if HE has a home and you do not & you file MFS.

* You can't sue him in 13 states that have "Inter-spousal TORT Immunity" laws. He could forge your name to access your credit & you can't prosecute at all. Just divorce him.

* You can't seek financial aid for yourself or your children UNTIL you have a divorce in process...which takes money to do...so he has you TRAPPED, single income & unprepared to challenge his divorce attorney or their stall tactics. You are left to be legally married for as many years as it takes.

Welcome to marital bliss.

u need to take out time for ur self and be ur self u will change a little but that's normal but the best things about u will stay

don't stop being yourself. When it comes to children though, they have to come first though. I suppose its a matter of priorities and time. Just don't pretend to be something you aren't and you'll be fine.

................. i have bno idea what u talking about lady